i always thought it was a good thing to last 45mins + but the girl i am with now isn't too into it. we have sex for around 30-45 mins and she has to stop because she dries out and it starts to hurt. we use lube but she gets sore. the first time i had sex ever, even with no condom, it took me an hour and a half to finish. and eventually the girl was like "its starting to hurt can i just suck you off?" is there any way to bring the stamina down some? haha...embarrassingggggg.