I last 3 minutes in masturbation, but hours IRL. What's wrong with me?

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  1. AtheistUnicycle

    AtheistUnicycle hey baby let me heuristically estimate your pussy

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    I started having sex with my current girlfriend (both our first time) about 2 months ago. She hasn't made me bust in all that time. Is it possible that I'm addicted to porn? I used to masturbate more than once a day, but I've cut down to about 3 times a week. This is very frustrating for both of us, please help!
     
  2. ChipOnShoulder

    ChipOnShoulder New Member

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    You just need to relax. This is a common problem, and is performance anxiety related. My first few times for example, i couldn't climax. Eventually i gained more confidence in the sack, and now it's not much of a problem.

    Choice of condoms/lubricant is important too. Hard to get off when it's not comfortable, or if you can't feel shit. If she's not feeling it, it's a total mood killer too. As such, you need to figure out how to make the environment and the act itself as comfortable and awesome as possible. Read askmen.com or a lad mag like Maxim or something, good luck.
     
  3. AtheistUnicycle

    AtheistUnicycle hey baby let me heuristically estimate your pussy

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    we've been using crown ultra thins and ky personal lubricant, and she tells me all the time how big i am. it's true that she has quite a small vagina so i am a little afraid of hurting her.

    i guess i just have to work on relaxing/setting the mood... we always have normal conversation/cracking jokes while doing it :rofl:
     
  4. Nomad

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    well you just said it, you're afraid of hurting her. that could probably affect your performance


    also sometimes i need dirty talk to get me to finish so :dunno: if that helps
     
  5. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    You need to cut way down on the porn and masturbating. You've trained yourself for quick satisfaction and now sex just doesn't compare to the techniques you religiously use to get a fast O.

    You both are new to sex as well. You have to learn the different things and positions that really get you off.
     
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    I'm sort of in your shoes except it's taking me forever to finish because I have to be conscious of how hard I'm doing it because she's not used to taking it very deep. My girth is almost too much for her as well. I feel bad for her because of her past sexual life. I'm no Peter North. Average to slightly above.

    My suggestion is more foreplay, and even less wanking.
     
  7. Ford4Life

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    A womans vagina can strech enough to pass a 7-8 pound kid though it, so she'll be just fine with your cock in there. Relax.

    From all the porn and jerking, you are used to the death grip. A real womans vagina isn't going to grip like that. Since you have a girlfriend, stop jerking off for awhile. If you get horny, fuck her.
     
  8. Falconer

    Falconer OT Supporter

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    stop masturbating for a week and then have sex with her. you'll blow in under a minute.
     
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    :hsugh:

    Just because when the body chooses to dilate the vaginal open (which often rips as well) so that something can come out (along with a TON of pain) doesn't mean a girl can be comfortable with any dick.
     
  10. Mars Princess

    Mars Princess They hatin'

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    You both are new to sex and to each other. It just takes some time to know your body and your partner's body. Has she tried masturbating you or giving you oral to get off? Are you looking to get off from just penetration? Curious.
     
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    this happens to me with every new girlfriend. eventually i can go for the quickies assuming i'm not exhausted. just relax and stuff.
     
  12. Dargone

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    Stop masturbating for a few days and then have sex. All will be right, you will see :bigthumb:
     
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    im having the same issue currently..but im also very stressed out bout shit in life :hs:
     
  14. AtheistUnicycle

    AtheistUnicycle hey baby let me heuristically estimate your pussy

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    she gives me oral before hand for like half an hour, then we have penetrative sex...but she has to warm up to it/stretch out and that could take about 5 minutes. what we're attempting to do is tohave the oral sex, then get off on the vaginal sex.

    thanks to all the help/comments, we're going to give it a go tomorrow morning :bowdown:
     
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    I always had the same problem even without condoms sometimes. No masturbation should help.
     
  16. AtheistUnicycle

    AtheistUnicycle hey baby let me heuristically estimate your pussy

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    i tried to go without masturbation for a while... i didn't make it too long :o
     
  17. MissKitty

    MissKitty If squats were easy they'd be called 'Your Mum' OT Supporter

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    That's when you tell her you need her badly and use her. :nono:
     
  18. AtheistUnicycle

    AtheistUnicycle hey baby let me heuristically estimate your pussy

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    :mamoru: it's been an LDR for a little bit, we go to different colleges. summer vacation's in, so :naughty:
     
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    LT Smash Give'm the kick

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    Is that true? but shouldn't the fact that hes trained himself to cum fast watching porn make him also cum fast in bed?
     
  20. Coottie

    Coottie BOOMER......SOONER OT Supporter

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    IMO the reasons have to do with reality vs fantasy. You know your gf and have all sorts of connections and experiences with her. With pron you can imagine anything you want or ignore anything you want.
     
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    try cutting out the lube as well. if yall are doing all the build up shouldnt be a need to use it.
     
  22. AtheistUnicycle

    AtheistUnicycle hey baby let me heuristically estimate your pussy

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    i came today! after about half an hour of sex and 20 minutes of foreplay.

    :bigthumb: both our smiles were from ear to ear. it was in doggy style and i was leaning down close to her back... i watched myself thrust into her and it reminded me of a porn i saw :hs:
     
  23. AtheistUnicycle

    AtheistUnicycle hey baby let me heuristically estimate your pussy

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    she's WAY too tight to not use lube.
     
  24. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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