SRS I lack follow through ... and other things

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  1. eligh

    eligh Go To A Meeting

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    It seems like I always have these wonderful ideas, but I never have the follow through to make them happen. I have several issues, feel free to diagnose and advice on any of them if you wish.

    The one thing I did finish was college, but I didn't learn as much as I would have liked to, and didn't enjoy my major (statistics). It was a bail-out after a failed attempt at computer engineering. Now I don't have enough education to get a computer job, but I don't really want a statistics job (and they are much more rare here in the Silicon Valley).

    I had all these plans of calling up old friends, and working out everyday. I've worked out once, and haven't called any of my old friends. All I do is sleep when I get the chance, apply for jobs by email, or spend the last of my money to travel away from this shitty town I live in.

    I thought I'd have the motivation to teach myself new computers skills, but I just don't seem to care anymore. I can barely bring myself to read my book 30 min a night.

    I can't stop smoking cigarettes, and I'm just getting sicker by the moment. My lungs hurt, my throat hurts and I have general chest pain every morning. I smoke because I'm bored, and I'm too lazy to make food, and I'm not working out, I can't stop the cycle.

    I'm lonely, I have friends, and they are great, but they don't always have time for me, since they have school/work. I'd like a girlfriend, but I have little or no money, since I'm in current need of a job. The only place I meet any girls is through a few friends of mine, and they are usually beat and mentally unstable. I don't party anymore, and I'm not about to start again, that only leads to trouble for me.

    Oh, and I almost forgot, I really miss college. I miss having a ton of young people around me, and a bunch of cute girls. I miss seeing people I know, and asking them how they are doing. Now I have to drive to get anywhere, and I miss the beautiful weather of Santa Barbara also.

    If you were caring enough to read all that, and you have advice, or you can just want to call me a whining idiot, do it. Any suggestions would be appreciated, I'm really not doing anything all day, and rarely wake up before noon. That is all, thank you.
     
  2. Darketernal

    Darketernal Watch: Aria The Origination =)

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    Words without action = Zero. You harvest what you seed, if you don't seed then you can never harvest, we struggle against our bodies so our spirits may become stronger, overcoming lazyness and sigaret addictions are two of them, tho there are many more. If you don't struggle for a future along with the effort to make new choises that create new realities you will always be stuck at the place that you are now. Everyone is fighting to get out of the black hole they are in to find the light i suggest you start doing the same. Participate in university and get yourself a higher degree, if you are bored it only means that you need another challenge in your life, don't overestimate yourself, You need a job with variety so you won't get bored that much is clear. Im not sure what that may be tho, if there's anything you wanted to be as a child i suggest you grab hold back on that idea and make your dreams come true.
     
  3. johan

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    go to your family doctor, get a script for zoloft, and then re-enroll in college. Forget computer engineering, or statistics or any of that. Enroll in something that really excites you (obviously those two subjects didn't)

    restart your life. Won't be that hard since right now...you have pretty much jack squat...so there's very little holding you back.
    Ditch your current "life" and start over.
     
  4. PocoDiablo

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    First, you may be clinically depressed. Consider talking to a psychiatrist about what you may be able to do to help. Beware of Zoloft, or any other drug, until you have done your research. I *think* Zoloft may be a drug that once you start taking, you can never stop. If you're fine with that, then okay...

    Second, so you have no motivation. Welcome to the club. No one wants to do anything, and if they do they're nuts. At least that is what I think! ;)

    Third, on a serious note, it sounds like you are down beause you don't know what you want to do. You are probably a little to smart for your own good, so the thought of working in a cubicle is less than appealing. That's normal! Smoking yourself to death is not...

    Go read these books: Rich Dad, Poor Dad and then Cashflow Quadrant by Richard Kiyosaki. Take their advice with a grain of salt. Some may be questionable legally, but the concepts are sound. Maybe you are like me - you need to start your own business. Believe it or not, right now I am in the planning stages of opening a burger joint. I've found retail space, am working on the business plan, and cannot wait to get it going. I'm tired of working for someone else. If you want friends and hot chicks, maybe you need to be a bartender, or open a bar, or at least work in a bar.

    If you lack skills with the ladies, why not do some reading on dating tips? Sounds like you have plenty of free time.
     
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    I should add, if you do go back to school, think about what Johan said - maybe you need to get a MBA so you can own your own business?
     
  6. DiggityDogg

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    A friend of mine once gave me some good advice when I told him that I wasn't happy with the way my life was at that time. He said, "If you don't like your life, then change it."
     
  7. Reznik

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    Breaking that cycle is important. It may seem like too much at the moment to you. It may seem like there are just too many things going against you. Maybe they are, but if its going to be any better, you're the one person that can make it happen.

    That being said. Focus on one thing at a time and get one thing correct every day and add to that. For example, you could start going to the gym everyday. Then you could try eating healthier food. Stop or reduce smoking. maintain a set sleep schedule.

    The point is, keep plugging away a little at a time. Set goals and priorities for the future and work at them...
    You'll feel better in time! Good luck man!
     
  8. PuppyCat

    PuppyCat O.T. Mom

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    Holy shades of nada...Nothing worse than being stuck in a rut...makes everything seem just so beige. Everyday is the same and everyday is like banging the silent zero in search of sound. Not good. I think tho, a lot of people sit on that comfortable beige pew. Being lonely, depressed, bored, maybe a tad angry, unsure, no motivation, etc...is not a good place to park your keester. You are intelligent, think of wonderful things to do...know that you are in a rut, so you have to make a conscious decision to (and I quote my Dad) "to shit or get off the pot". You are the only one who can change your life, no magic fairy is going to come and wave their magic wand. It sometimes is a dang hard thing to do, but, think about it in terms as an adventure. You need some fun in your life and exploration. Get out there, start doing stuff, look around, go to college and study something that interests you that you are passionate about..have some fun...change sometimes does not happen overnight...sometimes it is extremely gradual, but it does happen...I know if you really set your mind to it, got off your keester, good things would happen for you...but YOU are the only one who can make it happen.
    Try it...you'll like it.
    :)
     

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