ok, this is my first time coming to a O/T or any forum like this (homosexually based), and i need some advice. Let me give some background first. Being that ive known i was gay practically my whole life, i finally felt comfortable at 16 as a jr in hs telling my closest friends, we'll call them russell and ryan, that im gay. Russell took it very well, and he has proven his trust to me a few times before. ryan, on the other hand, was less trustworthy but i guess i just needed someone to talk to so i told him aswell. somewhat expectedly, ryan went and told 2 people who i didnt want knowing. they've both talked to me about it, and they both are fine with it and wont say anything to anyone. but ryan is insistant that he tells everyone who'll listen, including his sister. i KIA that his sister, we'll call her Jamie, would probably tell her friends (she is pretty popular.) now, for the situation im dealing with now: since the begining of this year, theres this freshman ive been eyeing up. he kinda set off my gaydar from day 1. he has alot of gay mannerisms, the flexing wrist, voice inflection, having only female friends, discomfort around other guys, likes shopping, talks fashon with his BFFAE's greddy, etc... i was lucky enough to be placed in his gym class for second semester of this year, where i kinda got to know him a little bit. we've never really had a conversation, but we talk a little bit. heres where ryan and jamie come into play. jamie, as it turns out, is very close not only with jared, but with all of jared close female friends. i cant pinpoint exactly when he found out, but for a few days after i suspect he heard that i like him and think hes gay, he was really distant to me and i was upset about it. today, though, things changed. i went into school and i saw a friend of mine, who asked me where i was going cause i had to go take a test and i was walking and talking loudly cause russell (my friend) was behind me and jared looked up when he saw me he looked right in my eyes and said "hEy (capital = inflection) Roger (im roger)" so i said hey back and i kept walking cause i really had to go take a test. i was so cought off guard by the whole thing because i really wasnt expecting him to even acknolege me. i also had gym with him today. we were all standing around the teacher, except for me. i was sitting and theres this other guy in the class, wyatt, who can be annoying and he was standing right next to me with his crotch in my face so i said "hey wyatt, get ur cock outa my face" in a joking way and he moved away and laughed. jared took his place standing a little closer than wyatt was. i looked up at him, he smiled, i smiled back, and we went back to listening to the teacher. my issue is that i know hes gay, he knows i know hes gay, but i dont know how to confront him about it. you see, i know that if i was in his position (which i was, 2 years ago as a closeted freshman) and i knew that some guy liked me and thought i was gay, i wouldnt have approached him. if anything, i probably would have told him to step off. i really like him and i know that he feels for other men, i just dont know how to approach him about it. i dont often see him a private situation, just in groups where it'd be weird for him to go talk in private with me, given the rumors. i want to at least talk to him about it, so he knows he has my support; and if things go really well, a relationship may even sprout. do you guys have any ideas on how i could approach him and make him feel comfortable at the same time?