I just don't understand how this girl keeps going back to this guy...

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  1. weezerfan

    weezerfan New Member

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    My GF has a friend who keeps seeing this guy that pretty much is using her for sex/ buying him things/ transportation/ etc.

    They aren't officially together but this still BAFFLES ME

    This douchebag is broke as hell, always makes her pay for EVERYTHING, for instance after she noticed he had some money they went out to eat at taco bell, thinking...oh wow he'll maybe buy for once, the guy orders his meal and just walks away letting her standing there to pay for the whole meal. Calls her up wanting threesomes with his friends, and when she denies him he allows his friend to go off on her in a swearing tirade , calls her up when she really wanted to go to Ocean City MD one weekend and tells her, oh by the way guess where I'm at, OCMD with my friends!, without telling her he was going.

    what the fucking hell is the diagnosis for this? Low self esteem?
     
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    That'd be my guess. If she cant see that he's just messing with her/using her and that she deserves better, low self esteem it is.

    Now, as for what to do about it.....I dunno. I've seen this situation with my friends before, and it seems that theres no talking them out of it. No matter how many times you point out the shitty stuff he does, the way he treats her, etc. it doesnt matter. She'll eventually have to see it for herself and realize that he's being a shithead before she'll leave him.
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    Do most people treat her like a princess?
     
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    Huh? Was that for me or the OP?
     
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    weezerfan New Member

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    I believe her dad does :dunno:
     
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    loew self esteem or stupidity, take your pick
     
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    Even low self esteem wouldn't affect you this much.
    Must be truely stupidity, its all her fault so dont feel bad. :noes:
     
  8. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    that's weird... usu. girls with loving fathers aren't fucked up in their male-female relationships. in my experience

    edit: scratch that, i think it has more to do with luck of the draw than anything else. sometimes a girl is with a guy just bc he is an early experience. bad or good
     
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    1337 Forget it, Jake. It's Chinatown.

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    Reminds me of my friend who goes to school on the other side of the country. Everytime he comes to visit he always pulls one chick for his stay. Said girl will pay for everything, drive everywhere, always be available for sex. What I noticed from these girls is that it's 1/4 low-esteem, 1/4 first time, and 1/2 his game, for serious.
     
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    does she not get attention from very many guys? I'm super, super shy and stand-offish (IRL, obviously) and although I'm not bad looking I don't get much attention from guys, so when I do, sometimes it's not really the best guys, but I sort of just put up with it because it's 'better than nothing.'

    /asylum type post
     
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    I'm no expert, but perhaps insecurity+stupidity(?)
     
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    Girls like that frustrate the fuck out of me. I have friends who have stuck around with jerks and I honestly think they like the drama that's associated with sticking with the jerk.
     
  13. Christopher396

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    Someone abused her when she was a kid.
     
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    wow... props for the candor
     

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