I have oneitis. It's fucking torture. Hold me. :wtc:

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  1. drumbandit

    drumbandit New Member

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    For those that don't know, oneitis is the malaise that occurs when you get hooked on a person who does not reciprocate your interest.

    Quick background: I met this cool chick off of Match.com, went on a few dates and hung out. I was head over heels for her. She finally gave me the "I like you as a friend" bit, which I didn't even see coming.

    Like I have hobbies that keep me occupied and shit. I love playing the drums and I'm in a band which I practice daily for. I started working out a couple months ago and feel physically better about myself. My job keeps me in check for most of the day.

    But she's always in the back of my mind. I constantly wonder what she's doing, who she's seeing, if she's even thinking about me. I check her facebook page to see if there's even an indication that she's into someone else. Even a comment like "Hey, are you back in town?" on some other guy's wall gets me jealous to the point where I wonder what she sees in him.

    Pretty crazy, huh?
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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  3. Bob Brown

    Bob Brown bewshit, bewshit, bewshit

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    no, not crazy at all.

    That sucks. Been there, done that. Gotta find a new girl for your life!
     
  4. paranoidandroid

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    if you like this girl DONT ACT JEALOUS. also, don't talk to her about your favorite drummers. girls dont dig neil pert man. they just don't.
     
  5. Dr. Mike

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    Delete her as a friend on Facebook and block her, delete her phone number from your phone, don't keep anything that could allow you to try to dig up information about her. Then she'll just slowly fade away. There's enough girls out there, why spend time on the one that doesn't want you? The right girl will want you.
     
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    I talked with this girl i met at my bank (she was my loan officer) for like 3 months trying to get her to see me before it finally happened...

    EDIT: it was worth it, i talked to other people while i waited though
     
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    This goes back to caveman days when there was only 1 woman for every 5 dudes. Numbers are in your favor now, so that means you should get out there and start talking to other girls, you'd be surprised how quickly she'll disappear on your list of priorities.
     
  8. drumbandit

    drumbandit New Member

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    What's worse is that this girl is a 9 in my eyes but like a 7 to everyone else. Cute but cute enough to drive me crazy. :hs:
     
  9. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    Also, how old are you? these feelings you have are normal and happens more when you are younger, you get over it once you find a new girl you can like.
     
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    Those are the best kind :bowdown:
     
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    Well, she thinks that "we established" just being friends our 3rd or 4th time hanging out even though I was clear that I wanted more. Like an idiot, I continued to see her a few more times after that. She says she likes my company and I took that differently, like she wanted to take it one step at a time.

    Lately she's been "busy" and we haven't hung out in a couple months. Basically her brother is having personal problems and she's trying to help out by going back to her hometown periodically. Plus she's has a new job that she's starting. Either she has a lot on her plate or she's getting dick from some other guy.

    I did visit her at her workplace (a restaurant that was in the same hotel as another restaurant that I treated a couple of buddies from out of town) and she seemed happy to see me. The first thing out of her mouth was "I'm sorry" which was for not getting back to me after I called her a couple times. She said we would catch up soon. That was a month ago.
     
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    Easier said than done. :hs:
     
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    drumbandit New Member

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    I'm 25.
     
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    out of sight out of mind
     
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    I sometimes wonder if my boyfriend thinks/obsesses over me like that. I think that would be cute. :mamoru:
     
  16. Bob Brown

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    riiiiiiiiiiiight, you say cute now, but when you find out, you'll say CREEPY/CLINGY
     
  17. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    lol, no it depends, it can be cute. I liked how my ex used to obsess over things related to me sometimes.
     
  18. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    Not really... Sign onto your facebook and delete her, it's that simple (if she asks why then you tell her you cannot just be her friend because you like her). Hell, you would probably be better off just deleting your whole account if you are using facebook for crazy stalker stuff like that :dunno:

    The reason you think it is "easier said than done" is BECAUSE you are doing things like stalking her on facebook. If you keep checking up on her then you'll never get over her. Put her out of your sight so you can get over her.
     
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    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    probably not since he already has you :dunno: people seem to do these things more when they don't have the person
     
  20. Bob Brown

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    :werd:
     
  21. GPkustoms

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    time to move on bro.

    put her on the back burner and start fresh.

    if she comes back then give it a shot, but nothing you can do will change what she thinks, until she changes her mind.
     
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    less stalking more talking to other girls
     
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    I texted her yesterday to see if she wanted to come see Blue Man Group with a friend of mine who had free tickets for that night. No response of course, and I knew she was working.

    Fucking fail and AIDS. I'm a mess. :crying:
     
  24. Bob Brown

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    "Run, run and don't look back."
    --F.S.
     
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    you need to stop meeting chicks on match.com and get out and chat up some other women
     

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