When I'm in class, I talk to my classmates about school and whatever it is we're studying. When I'm at work, I shoot the shit all day with my coworkers. With family, I can talk politics or pop culture or whatever. The problem is, when I hang out with friends I never have anything to say. There's a couple people who I can hold a conversation with for more than a few minutes because we share the same sense of humor and interests, but for the most part I find myself creating "awkward silences" when going out with girls or even hanging out with old friends. I just have nothing to say to them most of the time and if start asking questions to begin a conversation, I feel like it's fake and I don't enjoy it. I've met several girls and stuff at parties where I did the fake convo and people are receptive to it, but then when I hang out with them outside of our first meeting I just have blank feelings toward them. Am I just destined to be socially secluded to certain groups or what? I've been told that I should relax more, but when I'm in those awkward silences I feel pretty comfortable, I just have no motivation to talk about anything. edit: I should add that throughout my developing years (14-21) I basically got drunk or high every single weekend and even though I made a lot of friends and went to parties and bars and hooked up, it was always with the "aid" of some kind of chemical. I know most substance use during developmental years can affect the growth of the part of our brains that affects social skills... Am I potentially screwed because of this? I stopped smoking weed when I was 18 and I stopped drinking five months ago.