I turned 18 in January. I met a girl (~1-1.5 years younger) through a friend of mine and we started talking. We are at different schools but near each other. We talked a lot, and finally hung out...didn't really do anything (activities-wise). Talked a lot more, saw each other a couple more times. Talked very constantly, almost every night, over text about stupid shit. She would always send me stuff "I want you here right now", "You looked so good last night I just wanted to kiss you right then" blah blah. The whole works. We've gotten pretty comfortable with each other...calling each other babe and all that dumb crap. Problem is, we've never hooked up. Only seen each other about 4-5 times or so in the months I've known her. We talk about it all the time (she sends me stuff like "I want you to pin me down and take control of me" etc.) and all that, and of course I play along. Recently I've realized that she says all of this stuff, but doesn't ever try to act on it. She'll tell me she wants to see me, but doesn't initiate plan-making. When I try to make plans, she's already got something or can't. All talk and no...do. I've told her this, she said it was because I only like to hang out later and she can't be out late (high school hate is coming I know). To be fair, I only want to "hang out" with her later during the night, because who hooks up at 6:30 pm? We meet for a quick lunch one weekend, talked, then went back and did nothing in/around her car (at the beach) for about half an hour. I kissed her on the cheek to try to initiate something. I found out later she was...shy(?) because it was the middle of the day with people all over the place. She got asked to our formal by some tool. I went stag. We danced a lot, with me grabbing her arm and kind of stealing her from her date, grinding and the whole bit. Said how she wishes I was on her limo so we could hook up the whole time, etc. I told her a few weeks ago my thoughts; basically that she said all of this stuff and never acted on it, never tried to initiate any hanging-out, was always busy when I wanted to, etc. She acknowledged this, again, and said she will try to do better. I then wanted to make plans for the weekend, only to find out that she was going to be in LA that weekend, then was going on a cruise the next weekend (this past president's-day weekend), so we would definitely hang out in 3 weeks. For some absolutely unknown reason, I just let it go, and did my own thing. During this time, and before it also, I would occasionally freeze her our for short periods of time (3-5 days) with no contact. Because we talk almost every day, this was a big thing, and it obviously sent a message. She would always ask if I was mad at her, etc. I could basically predict her thoughts. Here's the deal now. I've been talking to this girl for a long ass time now, and nothing's happened. It's mostly my fault. I'm so used to our routine that it feels weird not to talk to her, even though we haven't hooked up and barely see each other. I probably need to stop obsessing over her, but it's hard- I try to then she gets my hopes up with talking about wanting to take showers with me and shit. I feel like I need to give her an ultimatum, even though I kind of already have. She offered to hang out with me this Saturday, wants to get lunch and walk on the beach. I told her I prefer nights, and she knows that. She says she has plans Saturday night (I work Friday nights) and will talk to her friends. I know I forgot a bunch of details, and I KNOW I am gonna get massive shit for this, but what should I do? I know deep-down I'm obsessing over her and almost letting her control me, but it seems like it'll be just a short time and we'll be hooking up with each other like crazy. But, none of that has happened yet, so I don't know if it ever will. Give it to me.