Little back ground.. Im 24, been single pretty much forever, never had a LONG term relationship, i dont realy think i even think about women as much as the avg guy. Im too busy with my car and gym hobbies. But lately ive kind of caught the anti-alone bug... so last FRIDAY, a customer at work and i swapped phone numbers. I took her number 100% feeling it would be a friendship/lets bullshit and hang out thing. OK so about an hour after we had eachothers digits, she's texting me about hanging out soon, call me, etc... Right then i knew she was going to be kind of an issue. Shes fairly attractive, 26 years old, dental assistant, cool personality etc. My big issue with her from the beginning, is that she has a 5 year old, and is devorced. Thus me wanting only friendship of her. So the next day the texts start again, so i figured i need to call her, get both of our intentions straightened out, and just get any bullshit out in the open. Well, 3.5hrs later we've both told eachother EVERYTHING. Wayy too much in my opinion... Everything from past relationships, what we're looking for now, hardships growing up, the future...just flat out too damn much for a FIRST phone call. At this point im thinking, holy shit thats not a convo you have with people you'd consider only a friend. So im pretty much tripping out that shes on my nutts and i realy dont want any of that right now. We had another phone convo the next day, and after an hour of talking, i felt alot better about her realy wanting to just be friends, nothing more. Well, this was just a show i guess. I took her to transformers on weds, she was kinda doing the cuddle thing and i KNEW she wanted me to do the arm around her, cuddle her bs. But i was CLEAR that im not trying to send mixed signals, or play games, just be friends. After 2.5 hrs of that, she invited me to her place. I could just tell from the way she was acting that this would lead somewhere i dont need it too. So i made some bullshit reason to go home. Since then we've played a little text tag, but ive been realy avoiding her, shes just so damn clingy so damn fast, she even sent me a text after the movie that read " Are you asleep my love? well if you want to call me ill get up and talk to you honey, nite XOXOXXOXO"... That text along with others just realy realy showed me that i was right from the start, shes at a different place in her life than i am. So today, in an attempt to atleast help me push her away, and move on at the same time, i Asked out another customer. Shes 22, cute, and doesnt have a kid. We swapped numbers, i was on top of the world, too good to be true right?...right. While working on her car i found a spit bottle for chew..(im not 100% sure its hers but i dont see how it isnt), and like 3 different kinds of condom containers. The condoms dont BOTHER me, but the chew is fucking gross and just completely killer her in my eyes. This afternoon the other girl with the kid showed up at work, and sat up in the sales office for 2 hrs talking to the guys up there. She told them not to tell me she was there. Now i feel like i have to watch my back at work. Everythings just fucking falling down on me now. now that this is all laid out there...well most of it, Im having issues officialy breaking it off with the older girl w/kid. Shes extremely cool in person, i find her attractive, and id be lying if i said i didnt like some of the attention. Its just that i KNOW theres no future in it. Shes got so much baggage i dont even walk to list on the internet. Even still im having issues justifying letting her go Should i just ditch BOTH of them, and see what else walks in my door? Give one of them a chance, kill myself?..... Idea's? I sat there today trying to just think about what i WANT, and im just a NICE guy. Im not looking for a girl who'se going to give it up after a few dates, im not looking for a party girl. I just want a nice level headed girl who i'm attracted to who i can just have fun with and be myself. And yes im perfectly aware that i could call either of them at any time and get whatever i want, but thats just not the kind of girl i want to be with Anyways, any advice is appreciated, sorry for the long read.