I guess I'm a little confused here...

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  1. Mugen92GS-R

    Mugen92GS-R New Member

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    So I met this girl last Saturday. We didn't really talk much (maybe 15-20 minutes?) before I got her number, so the other day I invited her to come bike riding with me today, and she agreed no-problem. We ended up just going to lunch instead, and it was pretty fun. All in all we spent about 3 hours together, and I'm liking this girl so I figure when she leaves I'm going to try and kiss her. So we get to the door, I giver her a hug, then go in for a kiss. She was pretty much not expecting it, and kinda tilted her head forward and was like "what?". So I just backed off, said "alright then...", opened the door, said see ya later, and she left.

    A while later I text her with
    ""what?!" haha, at least thats a new one :p"
    Her:
    "Oh god im awkward. Sorry about that"
    Me:
    "Haha it's alright... so long as we can still hang out again"
    Her
    "Of course"


    Okay... so I go in for the kiss, and either get denied, or catch her off guard. Is it just me, or do her responses reveal that it's the latter?

    Also, I'm having a hard time thinking about how I'll make a move again when we hang out... any input?
     
  2. MissKitty

    MissKitty If squats were easy they'd be called 'Your Mum' OT Supporter

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    For some people kissing so quickly is awkward. You're still a stranger.
     
  3. Lucky Penny

    Lucky Penny Mr. cut me some slack cause I don't wanna go back,

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    Absolutely. And I think the only way to really know if she was caught off guard or wasn't in to you is to hang out with her again. You should be able to tell the second time around. :dunno:
     
  4. JustJeff

    JustJeff www.youtube.com/thisisjustjeff

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    Some people just don't kiss on first dates. It was probably a combination of a few things, and she didn't really expect this from you. I would say just play it safe next time around, and see how it feels. Use your judgement :)
     
  5. JamesL

    JamesL wat

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    I don't know if I would have even called that a date, based on what the threadstarter has said.

    It sounds like 2 people just hanging out getting to know each other. Then all of a sudden the guy swoops in trying to kiss the girl. I bet she was taken off guard.
     
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    ww_Crimson New Member

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    Unless there is huge chemistry I just don't think kissing on a first date (when you don't know the person much at all before hand) is a good idea.
     
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  8. Mugen92GS-R

    Mugen92GS-R New Member

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    Alright, maybe going in for the kiss wasn't the best idea... but I'd rather err on the side of showing her what I want rather than be too afraid to do anything.

    All of this aside, most of you still haven't answered my question. If she was off-put by my attempt, do you think she would have behaved differently?
     
  9. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    After 3 hours I wouldn't kiss you unless you rocked my world in that 3 hours. The chances of that are highly doubtful, therefore she wasn't ready for a kiss and got awkward :dunno: Not the end of the world, she probably digs you and will see you again.
     
  10. MissKitty

    MissKitty If squats were easy they'd be called 'Your Mum' OT Supporter

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    Behaved differently if she wasn't caught off guard? The reason she was caught off guard was because you tried to kiss her.
     
  11. Mugen92GS-R

    Mugen92GS-R New Member

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    No, I said off-put, i.e., "eww no I wouldn't kiss you".

    Either way, we're gonna hang out again... I'll just have to tone it down a bit I guess.
     
  12. MissKitty

    MissKitty If squats were easy they'd be called 'Your Mum' OT Supporter

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    Then wipe the slate clean and enjoy your next date :)
     
  13. Falconer

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    All good except for the bolded part. That was needy.

    It's ok tho cuz she seems into you.

    You really only get one more try at kissing her again. If she backs off next time, she's made her intentions clear so don't bother going on another date with her again. So what you need to do next time you go out is create a ton of attraction, maybe she'll even try to kiss you (that's win). But make sure it's the right time before you try to kiss her again. You'll know when it's the right time.
     
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    You must be a pretty good looking guy, because you're fucking up all over the place and it sounds like she's still going to let you insert.
     
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    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Usually I go for something a little less intimate before I go for the kiss. Was there any physical flirtation at all or were you guys sitting at opposite ends of a table and then BAM, you tried to kiss her at the end?
     
  16. knucks

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    in for answer
     
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    damn i always kiss on the first date :rofl:
     
  18. Abomb

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    :bowrofl:
     
  19. JamesL

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    I do quite often as well... but my line of thought here is that this 2 hour lunch wasn't much of a date.

    It sounds a whole lot more like 2 people just hanging out getting to know each other... rather than a romantic evening where the intentions are clear that the one(or both) parties are "interested".
     
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    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Exactly. Coupe hours at a coffee shop followed by arm around her on the couch watching a movie = kiss. Just a couple hours at a coffee shop = hug.
     
  21. Abomb

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    i try to avoid the awkward hug by always trying to escalate things further :rofl:


    one night i had this drunk chick making out with me in my bed. i would move my hand down to start rubbing her pussy and clit, she would twitch away or move my hand. so i would go back to making out with her, another 5 minutes later i would try to move my hand down there again. she would twitch or move my hand again. back to making out. this process happened for about another 30-45 minutes before i told her she needed to leave and that i was going to bed. yeah makeout sessions are cool and all but this unwieldy italian sausage needs to be parked somewhere tight warm and wet for safe keeping and the anti-cock shield was strong with this broad.
     
  22. knucks

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    You have such a way with words.
    I think I may like some of your posts, second to PB.
     
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    :rofl:

    my mother and gf were calling me a vampire yesterday because I could hear their quiet conversation from roughly 50 feet away
     
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    just_another_on New Member

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    Dude, I need to take this step, seriously.

    The chick that i've been messing around with (been at LEAST a week since i've seen her), was the EXACT same way. AND I was at her place, could of very easily just left.

    :bowdown: to you sir.
     
  25. Falconer

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    lol.

    Or you could've done a freeze out :dunno:
     

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