I fucking hate my ex...

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  1. Sybian

    Sybian She's with me...

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    Everytime I get to a place in my mind where I'm content and over this chick she sticks her head out again...

    I just got a text:

    "Hey, I know its a little late for me to say this but I've had a lot of time to think lately and I was unnecessarily cruel to you at times after we broke up. It was the only way I knew to distance myself from u, but it wasn't fair. Anyway I know its far removed now, but I still wanted to apologize."

    I didn't need an apology. I was over it. Done. Why does she have to keep coming back?
     
  2. Kalypso

    Kalypso New Member

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    It makes her feel like less of a bitch. Make it clear you want her to leave you alone.
     
  3. Sybian

    Sybian She's with me...

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    I don't even want to respond really.
     
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    Kalypso New Member

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    Well what she's clearly done is began to feel guilty, realize she was a bitch to you, and is trying to do something to put her mind at ease. The facts of the matter from your perspective are immaterial, in her eyes she's trying to make things 'right.' If you don't respond, she's going to assume you didn't hear her or you hate her, which is only going to make her keep sending you messages.

    I'd just tell her it's fine even though it's not and ask her to leave you alone, say you need your space or w/e.
     
  5. Sybian

    Sybian She's with me...

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    Well in any event I think she should sit and rot waiting for tonight. I may text her something back in the morning.
     
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    She probably isn't doing this to 'make things right' or becasue she feels bad, my guess is that she A. missed talking to you/missed your attention or B. Missed knowing that she can hurt you.
    I know because, I hate to admit what a bitch I can be, but I have to stop myself every now and then from calling/texting my ex to make sure he is throughly miserable for what he did to me.
    Note: I do stop myself.
     
  7. Sybian

    Sybian She's with me...

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    Good to know a female point of view...

    I don't think I should say anything at all. I said all the sorries that I'm going to say and I don't care anymore. The only time I think about her is when I have a bad date or when I'm shitfaced...

    I need to change my number is what I need to do.
     
  8. Pringles

    Pringles New Member

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    No you need to man up and stop dealing with her. The more the situation arises and the more you ignore it the more you will get used to it. Over time you wont trip and over time it will end. Just the few initial times will seem hard or worse, but it only gets easier if you have made the first step. Just follow through.
     
  9. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    I've explained this to you time and again.

    Nothing spikes a woman's interest like you having nothing to do with her.

    AND

    You used to be her lapdog, and she misses the feelings she used to get from your time and attention.

    This woman does not care about YOU, she only cares about what she can get FROM YOU.

    You need to block her number or change your number, whatever it takes to get her COMPLETELY OUT OF YOUR LIFE FOR GOOD.
     
  10. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    Fellas:

    You will rarely hear words this honest from a female.

    Learn everything you can from this post.
     
  11. Sybian

    Sybian She's with me...

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    :werd:

    That's why I said nothing. I won't either. I'm gone and she knows it. I don't plan on sending any response at all.
     
  12. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    Good job.
     
  13. Jalones

    Jalones New Member

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    Yea no response is way better than what I would've done. I would've said something like ... I dont even know...I think I've learned more from this post than I thought i would.

    < noob at relationships.
     
  14. Durka Durka

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    i was having that problem with my ex until i got her fired from her job and had like half the internet call her
     
  15. I fucking hate your ex too and I don't know her. :rofl:
     
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    Sybian She's with me...

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    Small update: (continued from the original text message)

    Me: "It wasn't too late. Thank you."
    Ex: "No problem, we were both wrong in a lot of ways. It just took me longer to realize my mistakes."
    Me: "Its an unfortunate situation but what can you do? Life goes on. Take care of yourself."
    Ex: "Too true. Thanks. You too".

    Haven't heard from her since. I'm glad. This is the finality that I needed. I know that she's not bitter and suffering over this and neither am I.
     
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    str0bot New Member

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    you could have just said "Yes. You were. Thanks for your apology."

    but your actual responses was about the same, gj not blowing up about it
     
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    I know how you feel man. I'm in the same boat with my ex. Just keep strong and youll learn to kinda brush her off and not let her get to you.
     
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    block her number if you don't want to deal with her
     
  20. Coottie

    Coottie BOOMER......SOONER OT Supporter

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    What the fuck is this??

    I thought you were going to completely ignore her and block her number/not respond. You agreed with Yail's suggestion then you respond like this??
     
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    Should have ignored the text message and never made this thread. If you're over it you wouldn't need to communicate about this with anyone.
     
  22. ware_ru

    ware_ru I know, I know, I'm amazing

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    some things never change, eh syb?
     
  23. Sybian

    Sybian She's with me...

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    That took a few days. What were you all asleep? This happened on Sunday. Its over now. No big deal. I don't feel as though my responses were in any way negative. Its a done deal and I got to close the book on it myself. I'm actually at peace with it.

    So take that however you will.
     
  24. bmorrell

    bmorrell SoCal > *

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    As long as you personally are fine with it, I guess.

    But don't start talking to her again or anything...ha
     
  25. Miss Red

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    MOTHERFUCKING :werd:......This is the best idea...and it will work!
     
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