I feel like such a loser

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  1. idioteque

    idioteque New Member

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    Tonight, I was fooling around with my gf, hard as a rock for AGES, and then when it came to the moment of truth, I just couldn't get fully hard. This is really depressing the shit out of me. I'm not worried about what she thinks, she was cool about it, but this is really gonna fuck with my head, especially with my college exams coming up next week. It all seemed so rushed (we're both virgins). Maybe next time I should just chill. I dunno... Is this normal?
     
  2. J

    J Active Member

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    sounds like the anticipation and all the foreplay turns you on more :dunno:
     
  3. DesignerAddic71

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    im not a guy, so i dont know these things, but doesnt stress and nervousness play a part?
     
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    J Active Member

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    yes and no. you can't really relax and enjoy it if you're nervous. however, stress can actually have a positive effect on your libido
     
  5. Godspeed

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    Happened to me too. Twice. When we'd kiss, i'd get hard. Sometimes when we are just laying together, watching tv or whatever, i'd get hard. but when we did start messing around and get ready to have sex, i became more and more nervous until my pants were off and my head was just :run: thinking "Oh fuck oh fuck, here we go.. What if i'm no good? What if blow it too soon? What if i do something i'm not suppose to do? What if....?" then i realize this shit is causing me to stay soft then its :run: :run: and i'm thinking "My dick is broken!!!!!! What the fucking shit!? Get hard get hard!!!!!!!!!!"



    then nothing happens. she didn't know how to deal with it and i sure as hell had no clue. i remember thinking to myself when i just gave up and laid down, "If i had a gun, i'd blow my fucking brains out right now." it's pretty humiliating but rest assured it happens a lot and you'll get over it and it'll be ok.

    also, it may help to let her know that the problem isn't her and that you just had "performance anxiety"
     
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    yeah, happened to me too. was nervous i guess.

    but yeah, i felt like an idiot too.
     
  7. PunkInDrublic

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    haha, trying to will it to get hard...

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  8. idioteque

    idioteque New Member

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    Same here, which is why is was so fucking confused. Anyway, thanks for the words of support, hopefully things will go smoother (harder :) )next time.

    :x:
     
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    well, it could be the stress from your exams.




    it happens sometimes. dont worry. you are puttin too much pressure on the situation since you are both virgins.
     
  10. RedVsBlue

    RedVsBlue Penguins > *

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    holy shit, another "i couldnt get hard last night" thread. And oddly enough all the answers are the same. When are the kiddie's gonna understand its natural to not be turned on sometimes due to a variety of reasons! Thats why you have mature relationships where it doesnt matter. Also you can find little 'tricks' to get yourself hard no matter what the situation. Learn your own body instead of asking strangers on the internet to tell you about yourself.
     
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    Well said. :bigthumb:
     
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    It happens.
     
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    Just nerves man. I'm willing to guess that's what it is since you're both virgins. Are you sure you're ready to take this step? If not, this could possibly be why your hard on ends. Maybe it's subconscious, you know, telling you that you're not as ready for this as you think, which is cool. :hs:
     
  14. <Mark>

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    haha it doesn't work. Ive tried.
     
  15. PunkInDrublic

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    ya thats why i was laughing at the concept.
     
  16. Billy McGee

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    first time i had sex i couldnt get it hard for about 10 minutes
    it was a nightmare for awhile
    but it was honestly just the nervousness
     
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    It was really hard (excuse the pun) to get it up my first time. I just kinda kept going in vain... and then I said to myself "hey, look, there is boobies, yay" then I just kinda relaxed and let it get hard and then just went for it.
     
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    Happens to me once in a while. I know for a fact that lack of sleep and stress can do this. I don't worry much about it, though. . and neither does my GF. She'll just go down on me for a couple minutes and we're back to doing it. :big grin:

    You've got nothing to worry about. Get plenty of rest, get enough water in you, and relax.
     
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    This happened to me my first time.-I couldn't get hard.. I was like :run: ..

    Never had the chance after that.
     
  20. Coco Monkey

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    dont worry about it man. it happens to the best of us. :hug:
     

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