I’m 22, and have had one girlfriend in my life (this year actually), and it only lasted 2 months. That’s it, nothing else even close to a hookup, and I continually find myself hearing people I know talk about all the shit they have hit and all the crazy kinky stuff that has gone on for them, and I can't help but feel . I always moved around (every 3-4 ears growing up, and still have to this day). I feel like all the fun and experimenting age is behind me, but I missed out on it. Now I'm in a new city with literally one friend to go out with (and he is a few years older), so it’s not getting any easier. As you may have guessed, I obviously have security problem, I have never had a core group of friends to fit in with, so I always feel out of place, there aren’t many people I can always count on, in fact none. I am probably 20 lbs overweight as well. (I know I need to go to the gym to work on self esteem which is also lacking). From what I have been reading, a self-diagnosis would say I need to work on myself and make me the me I want to be before looking around for women. Once I am where I want to be and have my own personal confidence, then the relationships should be no problem coming by. I suppose I don't have a question, I just wanted to throw it out there and see if there were any encouraging comments or thoughts to be had.