I feel like a weirdo!! She's 5 years younger then me.. *opinions*

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  1. Splak

    Splak New Member

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    I had a party and my friend brought some girls. One of them was really cute so I started talking to her. We hit it off pretty well and planned to go out. Well we went out last weekend and we got along fine, I actually like the girl a lot but I find towards the end of the night she's 17!! I'm 22!

    I kept telling myself, no it's too young but the girl is really mature and looks older than 17. I just keep getting this knot in my stomach when I keep thinking about it. Should I just go with the flow and see what happens or am I a sick dude for liking a girl 5 years younger than me?
     
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    Does she seem emotionally developed? You say yes, however, it doesn't seem you've really known her long enough to know for sure. (I'm sure everything else is developed.)
    When does she turn eighteen?
    Maybe you two can take the time to get to know each other better. If she really cares for you there should be no rush. Then you can be sure it isn't just smoke and mirrors. Some people do seem mature for their age.
    Then again if your guts are knotting up, you might want to pay attention to that. It seems that you feel that she is too young. That's not good.
    I know that I ran around with older men when I was her age, & honestly, I was not mentally prepared for it.
    Best wishes to you in whatever you choose.
     
  3. lauren

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    i wouldnt say your weird, but shes still in hs. you can only be so mature when you are living under your parents roof. soo much changes when you move out and grow up, i think maturity would become an issue later on (even if it doesnt look like its an issue now).

    id take it really slow. her ideas about sex, and whatnot probably arent as casual as yours. (im 22 now and 5 years agoi felt it was only right to have sex with someone i loved and i waited a long time; now, i keep it to commited monogomous relationships that i have been in for a few weeks)

    i think her immaturity will show after a while. feel the situation out. also, be a little careful of the potential legal ramifications.
     
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    I would say it won't last, but I am dating a chick who is 14 years younger than me, and it's one of the best relationships I've had.

    I'm 22.

    (Kidding! I'm 36.)
     
  5. Splak

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    Like I said, we have only barely gotten to know each other. My initital impression of her was that she was much older. I guess it threw me for a loop when I realized I was so far off.

    I am definately going to go slower with her than someone my own age. I guess I am just trying to convince myself to quit feeling like a pervert for even considering going out with this girl again.
     
  6. AstroGirl

    AstroGirl If I don't respond it's because I have severe ADD

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    Well normally 5 years would not be that big of a deal. But she is 17, that means she can't go to bars or clubs with you, making dating a little difficult when things pass the dinner and a movie stage. Plus she is under 18, I would look into the statutory rape laws in your state. You dont want her parents to get pissed then all the sudden you are sitting in a jail cell.
     
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    Just be careful.

    As to your morals on the subject, hey they're your morals.
     
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    Dont be age discrimination *j/k* :)
    Many ppl are a lot mature than their age!
    I'm one of those :)
     
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    :noes: I was in the exact same boat. 22 and 17. Personally, im keeping my distance and acting like an older brother for her.

    The maturity is not all there no matter what you or her will like to think. The girl I am talking to is somewhat mature for her age because her mom is a fuck up and she runs the house, takes care of her brothers, cleans and does everything. But even with that, she is not mature yet.

    The relationship is tempting though because she is so nice to me and would totally do anything for me. Girls my age are bitter and mean, the rest are married or in long term relation ships. They seem to look for money or guys in the 25 and up range.

    I say wait it out. Stay in touch and just be friends untill shes 18. having to be legally labled as a child molester and a rapist for the rest of your life is not worth it. Time goes by fast. Before you know it she will be old enough.
     
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    AstroGirl If I don't respond it's because I have severe ADD

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    Her mosa? ITS MY MOSA!!!
    Oh, as am I. I was just saying to check the law before he dips in, ya know ;)
     
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    You guys saying wait it out are all scared shitless because of fucked up laws concerning 16-18 year olds. Some states it's legal at 16, some it's 18. It's all BS. I met my wife when I was 21 and she was 16. That was almost 9 years ago. Our third anniversary is coming up. We're happily married.

    She likes you, you like her. Don't look at the age difference or that she's 17.
     
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    if you're already starting to feel weird about it (being a pervert), then maybe that's a bad sign. i'd go with what bret said, stay in touch and just be friends for awhile and then maybe you won't feel like a perv anymore.
     
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    take your age, divide by half, add nine. that's the cardinal rule of the youngest you can date. in other words, you shouldn't date someone younger than 20.
     
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    26 and 17 here... it can work (if her parents are ok with it)...
     
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    26 and 17?? uhhhh that's pretty sketch (not to mention illegal in most states)
     
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    Yep, my wife's parents were OK with the age difference (almost 6 years) cause her father was 10 years older than her mother. If parents are OK with it then all's good. If they aren't, then don't 'sleep' with her till she's 18:big grin:
     
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    34 and 22 here
     
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    I don't think that's a good rule. 18 halved + 9 = 18, so by that rule I shouldn't date a girl who is even one year younger than me
     
  19. Big Red

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    well i am 9 years younger than my hubby we started going out before i was of age to go to bars and all that shit, just dont go out stay in ;) just kidding but i do think the age of consent in KY is younger than 18. i believe in some states the age of consent can go as low as 14.
     
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    I don't live in the US... it's common around here... her parents are ok with it...
     
  21. RedVsBlue

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    Consent in KY is 16, I had some friends find that out the hard way...


    Well unless they are related, then apparently in KY they can give consent at any age! :rofl: Sorry I live here, I can make fun of this state!
     
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    Also there really is no rule how old someone is. Just realize how much a woman is going to change between the ages of 16 and 20...they really will have completely..COMPLETELY different mindsets!! Its scary. The 17yo you fall in love with will not be the same at 20. You have to be willing to change with her, or willing to accept any change that will come. And you can never know what to expect.
     
  23. i know someone who only dates underage girls.. hes 21 and they are usually 14-16.. everyone see's pics too alot of the time..
     
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    Yea thats really sick. He should be put in jail, and he wouldnt last long.
     
  25. Splak

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    Thanks for all the replies.. I'm just gonna see how it goes. No point in analyzing it too much.

    I'm not too worried about going to jail, I don't have sex unless I'm in a long term/serious relationship anwway.
     

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