I feel like a loser when...

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  1. Arkaybee

    Arkaybee New Member

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    I message girls on an online dating site and then never get a reply. Not really a big deal, just :hs:
     
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    get used to it
     
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    yah trying to find a girl makes him a loser :ugh:
     
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    I'm just trying something new :hsugh:
     
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    Why?

    It appears you've never approached a women in person and been turned down?
     
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    good luck with it, it takes a lot of work, but it also works for a lot of people.

    What type of messages are you sending to girls?
     
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    :hug:

    Do you need a Clark bar?
     
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    :rofl: :kiss:
     
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    Hey now be nice JAO I'm cereal :hs:
     
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    No, I've been turned down plenty of times in social situations. At least you get a instant rejection instead of just nothing lol


    I'm really just doing the online dating thing because it's something new and it seems to be more relaxed than high pressure "person to person" sitations
     
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    I just send them something short and to the point like "It seems like we have a lot in common (then I asked them something about their profile like music, movies, travel, etc)"

    Is there a trick to this?
     
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    I would feel like a loser too
     
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    they usually want cock and body pics up front
     
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    Don't jump to the commonality. Let her figure that out and become self evident.

    If you seriously have a similar interest ask something specific about that interest. But don't make it complicated.

    Also what works is "hey I think you're cute and wanted to say what's up"

    A good message won't get you from no to yes... only from on the fence to either side. It's a numbers game honestly.

    This is coming from a few friends who have online dating down pat. I could never get into it myself. I would make a profile when I was bored, message a bunch of people, then get frustrated when I have to do stupid small online talk and have people reluctant to have a COOL conversation.
     
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    Don't come across as every other guy... You need to have a unique personality to get women's attention. Especially the more attractive a woman is the more guys she is getting messages from.
     
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    Comment on something directly that you have in common (not just we have a lot in common). Saying something specific about their profile is a plus, because it lets you know that you read it.

    Keep it short, but give her something to send you a message back.

    Saying "hey, i think your cute, wanna chat?" or "hey whats up?" is terrible. The girl wants to know that you took the time to read her shit, and not just copy/pasted something to 20 other girls.

    The key is to set yourself apart from the other 20 messages she got today, and giving her easy to comment/answer questions is a great way to do it. But also remember, shes reading 20+ messages, so you dont want to say too much.

    My one friend says he loves to pick something out of a profile and tease them about it, making a joke or whatever. hes pretty good in the humor department tho.
     
  19. wolfskymoon

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    I personally think online sites are even more about looks than in real life, unless you have someone crazy on the other side or just in the same exact situation as you, which is really rare.
     
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    Also, make sure you are sending messages to people in your league. Be honest with yourself. the first thing they are likely to do after getting a message by you, is going to look up your picture. If you are a 6, dont try to be getting a 9 online.

    Make sure you have nice pictures, dont have pictures of you hanging on some girl, etc. make sure you are dressed nice in them or whatever.

    Also make sure your profile isn't too bulky, no one wants to read a book, and if you give away everything about you on it, there is not much opening stuff to talk about.
     
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    I could probably trim the fat on my profile. Its bit long now that I look at it...
     
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    Sounds like a personal issue to me. No offense. I've done the online dating thing before and there were plenty of girls who didn't message me back. Never once made me feel like a loser though. Just because you aren't compatible with someone doesn't mean there is something wrong with you.
     
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    i feel like a loser when i try to spike a girl's drink and end up drinking it instead.

    :(

    j/k
     
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    What site you using?
     
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    You want to know a good line? "nice shoes, want to fuck?" Gets them every time man. Use it and abuse it.
     

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