I feel like a complete nub, need halp

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  1. Zee916

    Zee916 Engineering the world.......

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    I'm gonna make it short and sweet.

    Ladies, if you really didn't know a guy super well, like said hello before a couple of times, would you just walk into his apartment, start playing with his dog and hangout drinking beer for 3 hours if you weren't interested in him?

    I ask b/c, my next door neighbor just did this and she is like..... wow. By far the hottest girl that I have ever even had a shot at. We just chilled on the couch together watching TV, laughing and having a good time.

    In all honesty, I don't know if she was just being nice or what. Honestly, I'm nervous. This girl is bad ass and I'd really like to start things off right if she is interested at all.

    What do yall think. Should I just ask her out next time or chill together w/ friends or something? I've never felt like this with a girl and feel like a complete scrub so be nice.
     
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  2. Bi-Polar-Bear

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    Invite her over again or hang out with her with your group of friends. Towards the end of the night drop a line such as "wow, these past couple days with you have been great! Wanna hang out again tomorrow night?" Or something like that.
    Just make sure she knows u enjoy spending time with her and want to get to know her better. Her response will give you a pretty good idea of how she feels.
     
  3. JBunni

    JBunni New Member

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    Did you invite her in or did she invite herself in?
     
  4. saosko

    saosko OT Supporter

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    do. not. do. this.

    did you have a chance to get her number? how often do you see her?
     
  5. just_another_on

    just_another_on New Member

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    TS, PLEASE DONT DO THAT.


    Next time you see her around, next time she barges in, next time ANYTHINg with her, just let her know YOU ARE TAKING her out, heh, or staying in. Don't ask her. "I had a good time yesterday, im gonna grab some beer and some movies, ill see you in 20 mins?" or "As much as I like staying in and hanging, lets go get some drinks tonight"

    You already have the go if shes friendly and flirtatious, theres obviously some type of attraction, just MAN UP and speak on it.

    Or just buy a box of condoms and leave then on your end table, I mean wtf, she already barged in your house right? :big grin:
     
  6. chlywly

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    When you two were chilling was there any sexual tension?
     
  7. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    Better than "speaking on it" is acting on it.
     
  8. chickenfeather

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    Whoa whoa, so you're not supposed to tell her that you liked spending time with her and ask her out? What do you mean by MAN UP?
     
  9. just_another_on

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    To me, as an 'alpha' male, that sounds like something you would say to a 'friend'. Not some one you are possibly interested in, or rather, not a 'first impression' you want to give someone you're interested in.

    Obviously he enjoyed seeing/hanging with the girl, he doesnt need to re-iterate it and sound like some overly obsessed clinger.

    He needs to keep it short and brief, while allowing his actions/wants to come through clearly. Letting her know he is taking her out, rather than ASKING to take her out
     
  10. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Should tell her that you love her.

    Or you know, just hang out with her some more and see if you actually want to date her before you get all infatuated just because she's hot.
     
  11. saosko

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    ok nostradamus.
     
  12. Zee916

    Zee916 Engineering the world.......

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    Yeah, I got her number. She put it in my phone when she left, she got mine too.

    As far as sexual tension, I definitely think there was. I don't think she would have cozied up on the couch with me if she wasn't comfortable.

    I'm definitely just gonna ask her out next time and make my intentions clear.
     
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    /done
     
  14. Sirian

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    You should probably go play the lottery with this streak of luck. A girl you hardly know comes into your apartment, hangs out with you all night and gives you her number without you even doing anything? Pretty impressive!
     
  15. seismic

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    Whip out the dick and get down to business
     
  16. Pringles

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    unless your trying to make this girl into a girlfriend, which I would'nt do I think your safe just trying to hook up with her at your place. Enjoy these types of women because they are uncommon.
     
  17. C.W.

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    Nice. If you have her number then just invite her out. Maybe invite her out for drinks and since you guys live right there she ride with you and then come home for more drinks / sex. :x:
     
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    definately would suggest not doing that
     
  19. Bi-Polar-Bear

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    :dunno: I just didn't want him creeping her out by being too aggressive. Meh he got her number so he's in! :naughty:
     
  20. Pringles

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    Your forgetting that she invited her self over to his place. I'm not sure how much more upfront aggressive a girl can be other than lets fuck and pulls you to a bed.
     
  21. Zee916

    Zee916 Engineering the world.......

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    Seriously. May have to go grab a ticket tonight. :cool:
     
  22. eurocarracer

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    naked man, works 2 out of 3 times.
     
  23. eurocarracer

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    no but seriously, if she is your neighbor and things go south, you still have to live with her there!

    so take it easy and invite her out with her friends and your group of friends. That way you can get more of a feel....but regardless, ask her out, she is already barging in :o
     
  24. just_another_on

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    WTf are you talking about dude?

    What does he have to get a feel for?!?!?!

    Please TS, DO NOT BRING HER AROUND YOUR FRIENDS YET.

    Shes obviously ok with you, or else she wouldnt have barged into your house to play with you and your dog. Dont take it easy, show her your a man and not a fucking pussy whose afraid to initiate something.
     
  25. XaPU!M

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    It's not hard to avoid a neighbour regardless of your relationship with them...

    And there is no point in beating around the bush to "get more of a feel". Just straight up hit on her/tell her you are going out on a date and see how she reacts.
     

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