Newbie here BTW... Out of curiosity, I signed up here at OT to BS about something other than cars and motorcycles. And stumbled into this forum. Background: I'm a 30ish man, married to a woman I've been with for 10 years, no kids, faithful the whole time, but sexually frustrated. I've read the threads about women fingering guys, taking it IDB, giving it IDB, being submissive, giving head, talking dirty during mid-afternoon phone calls, mutual masturbation, etc. If I suggest any of the above, my wife calls me a freak, a pervert, twisted, etc. I honestly believe that she thinks there's something wrong with me. But after seeing what a random sampling of folks on the 'net are doing with their SO's, I'm beginning to think I'm the normal one, and she's sexually retarded or something. If I'm lucky, we have sex once a week... missionary position (once in a while she'll get on top), one small bullet vibe from time to time, very little oral, no spanking/pictures/anal play/bondage/Ds/fetish/kink/etc. It's not unlike having sex with a 16 year old inexperienced girl, except for the fact that she's also 30ish and we've been together for a long time. I'd love to experience some new things sexually, but she never wants to try anything out of the "ordinary". She thinks it's either perverse, degrading, doesn't want to be in pictures, etc. When she drinks, she'll loosen up some, but still won't be too adventurous. And on top of it, she rarely drinks more than a glass of wine from time to time. The last time she really partied was our wedding reception. Hell, our honeymoon, I think we had sex 3 times. In 6 days. I currently keep myself in check with cybersex and porn. But the temptation to meet new people is stronger now than it ever has been. I don't want to be one of those guys regretting his life when he's 70, but at the same time I don't want to cheat. I have some fairly conventional beliefs about each spouse's role in marriage. Nothing caveman or archaic, but each partner should be willing to satisfy the other. I also believe that most men are unfaithful because of something the spouse is doing (or not doing) leading to them being unhappy. And vice versa for the women. I know my buddy's ex was cheating on him because of how he treated her at home and out. I've honestly run out of ideas of things to try with my wife though... She won't watch porn, or read stuff I find, or even look at a couple books I've picked up with "ideas". She's against finding a relationship counselor for whatever reason, I have no idea. And with her wanting to start a family soon, I know that if it happens things will only get worse, as she'll have a whole new range of excuses as to why our sex life sucks. Any ideas?