I dunno what to think

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  1. Zackkahry

    Zackkahry New Member

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    My ex of 5 years broke up with me in november. A close friend of mine told me that she expressed interest in dating him recently, and had no idea what do do.

    How am I supposed to handle this situation? Obviously I would prefer if they didn't date, but it's really not my place to make that call :hs:

    Any of you dealt with something like this?

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    just_another_on New Member

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    Bro's don't date 'real' ex's.

    With that said, its your ex, who gives a fuck?
     
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    Zackkahry New Member

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    I agree on both counts, she was the girl I planned on marrying and she broke my heart :dunno:

    I know I shouldn't care, but I do.
     
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    just_another_on New Member

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    If you were going to marry and was that serious, i'd be questioning your friends relationship to you if he decides to date her.
     
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    Zackkahry New Member

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    Well what am I supposed to say to him?
     
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    Looks like she wanted to bang him for some time now.


    Oh well. Those are the breaks.
     
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    Zackkahry New Member

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    troll, troll, troll, your boat.
     
  8. LOLZILLA

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    I wasn't really trollin' big guy.


    But that post makes it appear like you have a hard time accepting reality.
     
  9. Zackkahry

    Zackkahry New Member

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    It's really just irrelevant. And fwiw, I'm not surprised by this.
     
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    i dont know, if i was a real bro i wouldnt date her :dunno:

    but its not something that you can just bring up to him :dunno:
     
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    He brought it up to me. I called him to see if he was coming to a bbq tonight and a few mins later he called me back and brought it up.
     
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    I'd base my decision on how often I went to hang out with him based on his decision in the current situation.

    I like hanging with my friends and their GF's. I dont like hanging with my Friends and my Ex's. As long as you see her as your Ex, it's never OK for a friend to date her. I'd never want any of my friends dating the last 3 girls I dated. Any of the girls before that, though, and I could care less. However, I dont know if this is because 3 relationships back is when I first got serious with a girl (relationships after that were not serious, either) or if I'll truly stop caring at some point in time no matter who the Ex is. :dunno:
     
  13. MissKitty

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    I would simply say that she was someone special to you and that you wouldn't feel comfortable with him dating her and you really appreciate his friendship and that he came to you before doing anything

    He did ask, he needs to accept an answer either way
     
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    if he is a real friend he wouldnt even have to think twice about this. you're better off without both of them.
     
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    I'd NEVER even consider dating one of my good buddies 'real ex g/f's'...meaning...someone they actually cared about, not just a hook-up. I agree...about the questioning your buddy on that.

    bros dont date their bros exes.
     
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    I've had a sloppy second or two. But "real" ex gfs with strong emotions and long histories attached are way off limits to anyone with a shred of decency.

    You should let your friend straight up know it wouldn't be cool. No need to mince words or be apologetic about it ("oh, i know i shouldn't care but i do, blah blah"), just tell him the straight up truth.
     
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    Seriously....wtf.


    5 years of you dating her and this guy would even THINK about dating her? :ugh:


    You shouldn't have to say anything to him about this. If he was a real friend he wouldn't touch her with a 10 foot pole.
     
  20. Falconer

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    one of the many reasons why friends shouldn't date their friends' exes is because then they have to see them again.

    in other words, if your friend starts dating your ex, he's gonna bring her to parties and stuff and you'll have to see her, which will suck.
     
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    Seriously, a five year relationship is not a fling. Your friend would be a huge douchebag for dating her and she would be an utter tool for dating him. There are over 6 billion people on this planet, so I'm sure they can both find someone else to date. :wtf:
     
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    gf of 5 yrs and you've only been broken up since Nov?

    if he asks you if its cool for him to date her he is not a real friend.
     
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    In my opinion he has already dated/fucked her thats why he was odd when you called him and why he phoned you back

    If he wants to be with her Fuck him he is no friend
     
  25. HuskiRuski

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    he's gonna date her. he's just taking a wild shot that you'll say "it's fine bro" so he doesn't feel guilty about slamming that pussy.

    but either way, slam he will.
     

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