i dont know how to "start" a relationship

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  1. Casino

    Casino Guest

    I don't have a problem hooking up with girls for like a one time thing, but there is this one girl I would like to start dating. We talk a little, sometimes we pregame together and go to parties together, but nothing really happens, we just talk and chill. I really like her and I think she may like me, but I don't know what to do to start dating her. I just feel akward and shit. Yesterday she told me to call her so we can chill. I just want to make sure she doesn't think that I want a one night thing. I just don't know what to do when I do call her. Like should I just invite her over to watch a movie with me and my friends and shit? :o:o:o
     
  2. Way_fast_Whitey

    Way_fast_Whitey Cause I Can't Stand To See You Treated Bad, I beat

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    yea i'd say just take it slow...and if she were to try and move forward too quickly, then just make her slow down and see how she responds to that. good luck.
     
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    Uh, just ask her on a date.

    If you want to keep it simple and low-key ask her over to watch a move, have some drinks, and maybe cook her some dinner or order takout.
    I wouldn't invite friends over if you want to move forward in your quest to date this girl though.
     
  4. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Why not invite her on a date? That's a novel way to start.
     
  5. HuskiRuski

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    have lunch
     
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    ask her to go run an errand, lunch, etc with you. But MAKE DAMN SURE she knows pretty soon that you are into her.

    You can say 'i have such a great time with you. you're down to earth in a way so many other girls aren't. and you're cute as hell too" and SMILE.

    Yeah it feels fluffy, but if it's the truth, say it.

    Don't "take it slow" in terms of hanging out a bunch of times and not get anywhere. If you have a tough time framing it in a sexual or non-'just friends' sort of way then when you go out to lunch pay for her lunch and say "I got it this time. But on our next super romantic and expensive date, you can pay." And you can play a bit on the 'dating' frame. It makes it a LOT easier to eventually let her know you think she's sexy.
     
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    You need to ask her on a date. She's making it VERY clear she is interested in you. So, make a plan (Starbucks, 8:00, Wednesday), call her, ask her on a "date" (yes, use the word date), and see how she reacts. She's either going to say YES (good) or she will say ANYTHING ELSE (which is a no.)

    Then don't fuck her on the first or second date. Wait until the third date.

    Is watching a movie at your house with your 3 rowdy drunk asshole friends a date she is going to remember? Is she going to say at the wedding "Our first date was GREAT! I went to his house, we watched NFL, his buddies ate Cheetos and farted in my face, made jokes of him, and then I left. IT WAS GREAT!" :ugh:

    No. A date is the two of you ALONE someplace. Someplace where you and she can talk. You can flirt. You check for chemistry. And if you are not flirting and teasing her, and there is no sexual chemistry, then she probably is not interested.

    Cliffs: Ask her on a date, less than $20, no movies/dinner, flirt, see if she likes you.
     
  8. antihero

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    I still for the life of me can't figure out how you guys manage to hook up with chicks but not be able to date them.

    you know how if a hot girl walks into a crowded bar and announces that she wants to fuck, every straight guy in the bar will come running? yeah, well if you arn't a complete chump, just about every girl you fuck will come running if you offer a date. you honestly think girls say "sure, ill let him stick his penis in me, but going out for coffee - no way!"

    and lol @ having your buddies around during a "lets watch a movie" date. you do know that you never see the end of the movie when you have a "come over and watch a movie" date right?
     

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