I Do and I Don't

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  1. mazdadrvr

    mazdadrvr New Member

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    So heres the dealio:

    I met this girl at work, and she is great to be with and is really pleasant to talk to. Im 19, shes 25. Also, she is a bit slow in conversation and has constant tremors in her hands. Ive asked her out on a date and she was thrilled, however, I backed out at the last minute. I havent been able to talk to her since and I feel terrible. Shes been constantly leaving messages on my phone that she wants to get together, but I'm having strange mixed feelings about it. After a while, it gets really annoying waiting 10 seconds for a response to a question. Should I at least go out with her once or forget about it?
     
  2. Falconer

    Falconer OT Supporter

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    How are you waiting 10 seconds for a response if she is leaving your voicemails? I don't get it.
     
  3. Two toys

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    he said she's slow in conversation.

    as in she's got some sort of mental handicap... basically he asked out a retard.
     
  4. razi

    razi New Member

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    give her a chance. never know what you're missing until you try.

    I know a ex-methhead who's kind of like that... cept she's jittery also. it's really weird.
     
  5. Falconer

    Falconer OT Supporter

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    Whoops, missed that part.
     
  6. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I dated a guy who had been in a horrible accident (way prior to us dating), and was a tad slow in speech and many other things. I still feel guilty to this day because even though he was a nice guy I would get very annoyed with how long it took him to process a lot of things. I might not have given him enough of a chance, but oh well, it just wasn't meant to be. So do what you think man. I mean you might go on a date with her and really start to like her, or maybe not. The more important issue is you can't ignore her because it is just rude.
     
  7. MattThom01

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    not necessarily. if she has tremors, it could be a motor problem. It might simply be harder for her to speak than others.

    Not all disabilities are mental.
     
  8. cobramadness

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    nail & bail ftw
     
  9. ArthurPewty

    ArthurPewty New Member

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    My $.02

    By going on a date with her, you're not making a lifelong commitment. Also, you're not the most shallow SOB if you find her disability inhibiting to forming a romantic relationship with her.

    However, like Lady G said, to just ignore is disrespectful. I take it you got along well with this person before, perhaps considered her a friend. She sounds like someone you need to be a little more explicit with setting relationship boundaries, which is tough, but will be easier in the long run.
     

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