A little bit of background before I get into the main bit: I have a couple of friends who I have been friends with since 7th grade. We all went our seperate ways after high school. I got married (later divorced), Adam moved about 75 miles southeast, Josh went on a religious mission to Canada. Fast forward to about a year ago. Adam randomly calls me out of the blue to meet up because he has moved back to the Salt Lake City area. Does likewise with Josh. We all become good friends again. So last August, Josh and I move in with Adam. A little while later, Josh and I decide that we want to start going country swing dancing to meet girls. We both find that it's really fun to go do it a couple of times each week. One of my personality traits is that I'm very modest and shy around new people. So naturally, I have a hard time meeting girls. Not to mention I am somewhat self-concious about how I look (moderate acne and I'm very tall and skinny, 6'5" 165lbs.). Other than that I feel that I'm a decent looking guy. So I like going dancing. But the more I go, the more it seems that the girls that go are not into guys like me. They seem to be pretty shallow about what they go after. This really isn't a problem for Josh. Quite a few girls have told me how good looking he is. So when we go, he kind of can just rely on his looks to pick up girls. We are both shy, girls will approach him, but not me. I'm not very good at making a girl become interested in me right off the bat. Most of my relationships have been based on a girl that I've known for a little time. Once they realize that I'm a good guy, they come to me. So once he meets a girl, he will make arrangements to meet her at the club we go to. We go dancing and hang out having a good time until said girl shows up. He then vanishes with her and basically leaves me by myself. The thing about it is, is that I absolutely HATE being in crowds of people by myself. So as of late, I've been thinking that I really don't want to go dancing as much as I have been. Mainly attributed to girls not appearing to be interested in me, and partly attributed to Josh ditching me as soon as a better opportunity presents itself. Sorry, I just started rambling, hopefully you can make sense of what I have told you. I just don't know how to approach the situation. If I had a little more confidence in myself, I wouldn't have a problem. I could just go out on my own and talk to girls. So is this just something that is in my head, or am I being just in not wanting to go? I just wish I could go out and not have a problem meeting girls. If I have left any information out that would help in words of advice, I would be more than willing to share. Edit: One more thing is that I have an issue in which I don't think girls will be interested in me once they find out I've been married. Granted, 99% of people I meet don't have a problem with it. It's just something that I wish I didn't have to tell a potential girlfriend. It's something that I think in my head will deter them from wanting to associate themselves with me.