I constantly cheat on my gf and I don't want to stop...

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  1. MCohen

    MCohen #NotMyPresident #AmericaIsAlreadyGreat #GoSolar OT Supporter

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    ...but I don't want to break-up with her either. Everyone I've discussed this with has told me I'm being selfish and I should either break up with her or stop fucking around, but I can't do either and I've lost a couple friendships because of it.

    We've been together about 1 and half years now, and in the past 4 months, I've cheated on her with 5 different girls. Its definitely not a problem with her, she's a great girl and any guy would be lucky to have her. And I want to be with her, but at the same time I want to experience what else is out there.

    Sorry, if this a nonsensical rant, I just needed to get it off my shoulders and see if I could get some unbiased advice :hs:
     
  2. HuskiRuski

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    elaborate
     
  3. Falconer

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    i think he means THE problem is not with her, and not that she doesn't have a problem WITH it.
     
  4. Viper

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    I think he means that he's not cheating because he's unhappy with her.

    Anyways, the best advice I can give you is to either tell her what you are doing or break up with her and spare her.
     
  5. MCohen

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    Yep.

    She doesn't know about it
     
  6. arsbu

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    Don't be a dick. Break up with her and be single for a while. Think about what you want in life, don't drag others with you.
     
  7. vodkacollins

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    correction: you WONT do either

    if you actually cared about her, you would end it. she deserves better

    there is nothing wrong with wanting to experience other things. its wrong when you take advantage of someones trust to do it
     
  8. Joybang

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    All you're going to do is turn her in a person who doesn't trust people. You are being horribly selfish so just let her go.

    How far do you really think this will go anyway? She will eventually find out and it will end anyway.

    In the words of IWYWB "Grab your balls...." and break up with her.
     
  9. MCohen

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    Breaking up with her isn't an option and telling her about this isn't one either. I'm thinking this is just something I need to get out of my system because this is my first real relationship that has actually lasted more than 6 months. She's also the first girl I've been with that I took our relationship seriously in the beginning and didn't fuck around on.
     
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    you sound like an awesome boyfriend
     
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    You're being an ass wipe and making another girl jaded off of guys because of your behavior.

    Knock that shit off and break up with her.
     
  12. Joybang

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    Neither of those are true.
     
  13. Viper

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    No, they are your only options.

    You fucked up and you don't want to take responsibility for your actions. If you truly cared about this girl, you would understand that what you are doing is going to hurt her in a big way (which is why I would suggest you just break up with her and not tell her).

    If you come to the Vag looking for us to tell you what you are doing is ok or give you tips on how to get away with it to asage your guilt, then you came to the wrong place. Take a clue from the friends who've stopped hanging out with you and grow the fuck up.
     
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    hopefully one of the friends throws him under the bus. They must be decent people if they told this guy to fuck off.
     
  15. Viper

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    Because the truth is, you keep doing this and she WILL eventually find out. Trust me on that.

    Do you really want to hurt her like that? IF you care about her like you think you do, then you'll get yourself away from her so she can be happy and have a real relationship with someone who knows what it means to commit.
     
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    Why isn't breaking up with her an option? Because you want her as your steady pussy? You have not provided any good reason to not break up with her. Unless she's dying from cancer and you're staying with her to keep her spirits up, you have no reason to be with her.

    You may think it's a huge step for you to take the relationship seriously "in the beginning", but fact of the matter is that you're not taking it seriously any more and you are fucking around. You can't get it out of your system, you obviously recessed back into your cheating state. It's not like you're slowly becoming more monogamous...
     
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    I had a friend like this in high school. He cheated on every girl he dated and with all kinds of women. When he finally find a girl he truly loved and didn't cheat on she cheated on him.:rofl:
     
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    Wow, did mommy not give you enough attention when you were a child?

    The choice is simple, you're making it complicated out of your own greed and lust. You either have one woman that you hold dear to you and nobody else, or you are single and fuck as much as you want.

    Or there is the entirely possible answer that you're just too retarded to understand the entire concept, in which case there's nothing we can do to help you.:ugh2:
     
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    What are you hoping to get out of this thread?
     
  20. MCohen

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    I guess I was thinking maybe someone else has gone through this and could offer some advice.
     
  21. arsbu

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    Either:
    1) Vag saying it's ok to cheat
    2) A magical cure to stop cheating
    3) Us to bitch at him enough so that he'll do the right thing and break up with his GF

    Since 1 and 2 is impossible, I hope he just wants more people to yell at him.
     
  22. Viper

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    I've been on the other end of this (in a way) and I'm giving you the best advice for the woman you say you love.

    If you love her, get her away from you. :dunno:

    Else what you have is not really "love", because people who love someone do not betray their trust and try to weasel their way out of the guilt that comes with said betrayal.
     
  23. chica&buddies

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    at the very least, you're putting your gf's [the girl you supposedly care about] health at risk.

    extremely selfish. :sad2:
     
  24. MCohen

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    Wouldn't randomly breaking up with her just hurt her equally?
     
  25. arsbu

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    :werd:

    Although I never cheated, if I were to cheat, at the very least (if I was selfish and wanted to keep them around), I'll tell my girl that I cheated and ask for forgiveness. Because if you honestly do love the other person, you won't hide things from them and hurt them behind their backs.
     

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