SRS I cheated

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  1. bheld

    bheld I'm paying you with your own money...

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    I've been with my gf for 8 months and Friday night I took another girl that I had known earlier home. I don't know why I did it, but I feel terrible. My gf is plenty pissed but there's a chance we could stay together. I don't know how Friday night happened but I believe it was a combination of personal problems that in the past few days I have been trying to identify and work on correcting. My question is if I have ruined this relationship for good or if there's a chance to salvage something. I've been communicating with her about these things but I just hurt her so bad I don't know. I couldn't imagine being with anyone but her. What should I do?
     
  2. Hold yourself accountable - do the right thing, and accept the consequences. It's better to do so and retain your character than to go on with your life feeling like a piece of shit because you were incapable, or unwilling to take responsibility for your shortcoming.

    I do not know - and neither does anyone else - what will happen as a result of telling the truth. In the end, does it really matter when your character is at stake?
     
  3. teo

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    If your girlfriend takes you back, you'd better prove to her that you're worthy of her decision to keep you. She's fully within her rights to kick you out and end the relationship without another word from you.

    You should also take a long hard look at why this happened in the first place, and take action to make sure this never happens again.
     
  4. Truth. Good advice.
     
  5. dave steel

    dave steel My Kung Fu is the best.

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    Tell your girlfriend that you were honest with her. Lot's of guys would have lied, you didn't. That's worth something.
     
  6. jeyur

    jeyur cum fairy OT Supporter

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    agreed
     
  7. tat was blue

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    something, not much, but something. if she takes you back, she's more forgiving than i. nothign excuses cheating. if she does by some miracle take you back, you will have to work your bum off to gain her trust again. you're relationship will need alot of work. but if you're comitted, you can do it. pray that she's forgiving, and understanding.
     
  8. sirrach

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    indeed, the relationship will need a lot of work. She will forever be having nightmares, and thinking of you cheating if she decides to try to make it work. She might eventually get over it, but then again she might not. This is all saying she forgives you. I for one would not.
     
  9. AntiSocialism

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    Ditto, Sirrach. Taking him back wouldn't be an option for me. Cheating is a major mistake that there's no excuse for. You don't know why it happened? "Personal problems" sounds like a probable reason, or maybe an escape route.

    I'm highly surprised that she stayed with you, eight months is a long time.. But that is an even greater hurt. Have you ever been cheated on? Do you have any clue the inadequacy that one feels after being replaced, even for one night, with another person? Bheld.. That hurts like hell, perhaps even more than breaking up. My advice for you.. Is tread on thin ice and treat her how she deserves to be treated. Also, think with the big one, not the small one next time. If you can't see yourself with anyone else, don't find yourself with anyone else. I'm proud of you for realizing where you went wrong, a lot of guys wouldn't have.. But believe me, you went wrong. Be there for her, she's gonna need it. If she wants out, let her go. It's your mistake this time.
     
  10. BBQ Monster

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    I agree with all that. And with that said, remember if you love her and want too stay with her then maybe it would not of happened to begin with. Maybe you were supposed to cheat, who knows? But, keep the honesty that is a good trait, but I hate too tell you what everyone else has said. I would not take you back. If a guy cheats or if anyone at that matter, their is a chance he or she will do it again, and that is just a risk some people are not willing too take. Too me, my heart is too fragile to make it endure that much pain, because that is worse then a break up, but that has already been said. Good luck, I am glad you realized it was wrong, now just accept the punishment.
     

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