SRS I can't hook up

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  1. CT Cubs Fan

    CT Cubs Fan New Member

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    I have found that I have the utter lack of desire to just hook up with people. I seem to only want girls who have intrest in something significant and meaningful and I can't even grasp why people want otherwise. Anyone else like this?
     
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    PPen131 Hook 'em! OT Supporter

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    i feel the same way. seems like i have no motivation to pursue anything other than a real relationship...can't really explain it
     
  3. CT Cubs Fan

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    It bugs me how it seems so easy for everyone. I find it easy to explain, just not to understand. I can't take pleasure from something that is so totally devoid of actual passion or connection. If its soley the physical aspect I can't imagine taking any happiness away from so what the fuck is the point.
     
  4. Ivandrago

    Ivandrago I must break you.

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    Wow I thought I was the only person to feel like that. Glad to see i'm not the only one.

    I've never had the desire to go and just hook up with different women, i was always more interested in having a good relationship and not having one night stands every weekend. IT actually bothered my parents at some point; they thought i should be experimenting and sleeping around as much as possible. I know i had multiple chances to sleep with different girls in college. But i missed any signs or any hints because i was never really interested in the one-night thing. As much fun as it is (yes i did have 2 one night stands in my life) the fact that it lacked everything else bothered me. The physical part was there, but it didn't seem right without the other part.
     
  5. Jay Pheezy

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    I'm like that 90% of the time. The other 10% the testerone built up :hsugh:
     
  6. zguy

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    I'm the same way. I just figured it was me.
     
  7. BlazinBlazer Guy

    BlazinBlazer Guy Witness to The De-Evolution of Mankind.

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    You know, I really don't intend to just bash on people's parents like this, but I really have to say that's some SERIOUS bad parenting right there. If your parents were trying to push you into a behavior pattern that woul've seriously endangered your health and well-being (through the risk of STDs and pregnancy) that's really not good at all. They're just lucky that you were (for the most part) smarter than they were.
     
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    The Secretary My domestic skills will rock your socks off!

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    I wont get into a relationship unless feelings are mutual and there are substance to it. Its a waste of my time anyway and time is too precious to waste.

    The reason why we date is to find a mate that will satisfy us in all possible ways. For me I would only date a guy that maybe in a few years could see myself with for the rest of my life. If it doesnt work out that way then fine, I can just go on to the next one.

    But good for you in wanting substance and not just a piece of ass.
     
  9. Darketernal

    Darketernal Watch: Aria The Origination =)

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    I gues your looking for love in your relationship, which gives it substance and meaning.
     
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    isn't that called growing up?
     
  11. ~*Mia*~

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    I'm a girl, but I feel the same way you do. I don't want to date someone (long-term) or be with someone (physically) that I don't love. I see no point in just 'hooking up' with some guy for a night of supposed 'pleasure'. It is nice to know that some guys feel the same way, I was beginning to lose hope that there were you decent ones about ;) :)
     
  12. The last time I tried hooking up with a random chick I couldn't even get it up, so I don't think I'll bother anymore :hs:
     
  13. CT Cubs Fan

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    On an offtopic :)mamoru:) note, :bowdown: to fellow equestrians

    Its nice to see I'm not the only one who feels this way. At my school it seems to be the mindset of pretty much every girl and guy to not want a relationship.
     
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    ooh, another equestrian! yay! :wavey:
     
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    If it is I guess I'm ahead of almost everyone else my age. :wtc:
     
  16. BlazinBlazer Guy

    BlazinBlazer Guy Witness to The De-Evolution of Mankind.

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    And you would be how old....?
     
  17. El Frito Bandito

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    Man you and I are in the same boat...and for some damn reason the girls in KC just want one night stands....I miss the southern belles
     
  18. Peyomp

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    I can't hook up either. I dunno if its that I gained weight and am not as confident in getting naked with a stranger, or if I became accustomed to intimate emotion with someone that loved me in my last relationship. Both, I think.
     
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    Kudos
     
  20. Peyomp

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    I made out with two girls at parties/bars. One was about a 9 on the objective scale. Declined to go home with them when asked. I spent the night at a drunk girl's house after going home with her. Couldn't make a move. Actually slept in my bed with another girl. Wasn't interested in making a move. Was even sober enough to make one the second time. Dunno whats up with me. I am extremely horny at times, but just can't seem to go through with the act.
     
  21. x deaD piXeL

    x deaD piXeL Turn up the fucking music!

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    It's called growing up and maturity level. :)

    It happened to you, it happened to me.
     
  22. hatedbyall

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    I agree with all of you most women around here are either looking for sex , money, or both.
     
  23. Peyomp

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    If you hold this opinion, it will certainly be validated. If you don't, it won't.
     

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