I can't get over my ex

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  1. the_mavsman

    the_mavsman New Member

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    I am fucking pathetic. Even after all the shit shes done to me in the past (cheating, lying etc) I still keep in contact with her everyday. Why am I such a bitch? :wtc: She even asks me to be friends with benefits while shes seeing her other ex on the side and I stupidly agreed. Wtf is wrong with me?

    Well I am doing this thread because from this day onwards I am cutting contact with her completely. I said this a lot in the past and I never followed up but this time its for real :hs:.
     
  2. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    You know what you have to do.....now you just have to do it

















    In case you don't know what to do-you need to cut all contact with her.
     
  3. just_another_on

    just_another_on New Member

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    Stop acting like a bitch and man up.

    Stop talking to her, go see other girls.
     
  4. Poopshoot

    Poopshoot New Member

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    try to get some fresh axe wound bro and forget about that slut
     
  5. the_mavsman

    the_mavsman New Member

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    I am actually seeing this new girl and talk to her everyday but I still can't get over my ex. I have to dedicate more time for my new girl I think.
     
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    just_another_on New Member

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    No thats the last thing you need to do.

    By focusing more on the new girl its only going to keep your mind on her, instead of your ex.

    Just be casual, dont use one girl to get over another one. You'll only fail in the long run.
     
  7. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    You shouldn't be dating anyone right now. Your obvious fear is being alone so you need to work on that.
     
  8. teep

    teep New Member

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    don't even say hi, how are you or any of that. cutting off all contact means ALL contact. even the smallest shit can easily send you on a downward spiral again. stay strong. you'll find your balls sooner or later.
     
  9. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Absolutely. Work on yourself. You said it yourself: WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU? Well it won't fix itself. Take some time to look at yourself and figure out what actually is wrong with you. Go to therapy even. Odds are with that kind of self-destructive relationship behavior, you've got some issues to work on.
     
  10. vizyn

    vizyn New Member

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    You don't want to intentionally distract yourself with another girl because

    A. you'll probably settle for someone not right for you and
    B. if/when it doesn't pan out you'll be right back where you started

    Learning how to be alone is the best thing you can do for yourself. Spend time with friends, pursue your interests, find value in YOUR life so when the time comes you can recognize when you've found someone that best complements you.
     
  11. Bob Brown

    Bob Brown bewshit, bewshit, bewshit

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    what they all said !

    It's tough.........you'll have random thoughts of here on any given day, but just gotta remain strong and hold out.......sure you might be an asshole to her, but you gotta do it for yourself. Look out for # 1 (that's you btw) !!!
     
  12. D7

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    You should seek counseling if you think you need someone like that in your life and cannot quit talking to her.
     
  13. teep

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    isn't counseling a little extreme? doesn't everyone go through those feelings when they get their heart broken?
     
  14. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    No. There is a huge difference between being heart-broken and staying best friends with someone who treats you like complete shit.
     
  15. knucks

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    throw it in her poop-shoot, bang other girls.
    stop being a little bitch.
     
  16. teep

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    :werd: forgot what the original post said :o
     
  17. the_mavsman

    the_mavsman New Member

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    Yeah she does treat me like complete shit most of the time (ignoring my calls/messages, then saying sorry the next day or 2 days later).
     
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    Whats her number again?

    Oh thats right, you deleted it from your phone, nm I wont ask for it again.

    Wait, I need her ema...

    Fuck you deleted that too bro?

    Alright just give me her IM....

    YOU SERIOUS? You already got rid of that too?!



    ....


    See where im getting at?
     
  19. the_mavsman

    the_mavsman New Member

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    I just did everything that you said. Just sent her a final farewell message. Deleted her from my msn, phonebook (clear all my texts/call logs), deleted off my facebook friends and everything. I hope I get better in time. Wish me luck guys.
     
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    just_another_on New Member

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    Why?!?!?!!?

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    Now she knows what you're trying to do and is going to make it even harder on you.

    Either way, you did the right thing, good luck.
     
  21. D7

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    Relationships are a two way street. You participate too by contacting her.

    You can't continue to do the same things that did not work for you before and expect different results, unless someone agrees to change their behavior and that's not the case here.
     
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    only time will heal this shit... and if time doesnt work then go see a counselor
     
  23. Ichabod Crane

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    All this shit would have been good, except you "sent her a final farewell message."

    Fail.
     
  24. the_mavsman

    the_mavsman New Member

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    I gave her everything I could. I never made her mad, I even went overseas to see her for a month yet she seems unappreciative and does this behind my back. I am a broken man with a missing heart right now. Shit is hard but I know I will get through it in time. Thanks for the support.
     
  25. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    You'll be alright, man. Just don't contact her again, take some time to look at yourself, and hang out with your guy friends.
     

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