i cant get girls to orgasm

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  1. TomBrady

    TomBrady New Member

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    i know the whole 'not all girls orgasm' and 'all girls are different' but i am pretty certain that these girls have had vaginal orgasms before and i want to give them one.
    i honestly do fuck like a 'pornstar' if that makes sense. i bust out all diff positions, do foreplay etc. the problem i noticed is that i would be pounding it hard and the chick is moaning and whining like shes about to cum and i pound harder but i eventually have to stop because i get tired quickly or she just continues to moan the same way for a period of time where i just 'giveup' in a way. i can never fully get the chick to cum. i even play with the clit while fucking
    any tips or ideas on what im doing wrong?
     
  2. knucks

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    Try telling them to play with themselves as you fuck them, maybe that'll help?
     
  3. TomBrady

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    noo
    for example
    the girl has her eyes closed moaning like crazy while shes riding me. in my head im thinking this is working so i continue and maybe speed up the thursts a bit and she moans harder but there is NEVER a climax.
     
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    How do you know? Does she tell you after she never had an orgasm? A lot of times I will have one, but don't announce it or anything. :dunno:

    And try asking them what they like or what gets them off.
     
  5. Pounce

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    Yeah.. how about you ask them?
     
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    Sometimes a girls orgasms doesn't cause her to scream wildly like you see porn...mostly, that is just for show. One of my exes had long orgasms that would last the entire time she was moaning but she never "climaxed" and started shouting or screaming or anything.
     
  7. Falconer

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    communication.

    First bring it up outside of the bedroom.

    "hey, I want you to tell me what to do to make you cum."

    She'll either say "I've never orgasmed during sex before" in which case if that's true, then you don't lose any points, but you can gain massive points if you're the first. If that's a lie, then she's a dumb bitch.

    Or she'll tell you what she needs.

    MAKE SURE she doesn't adopt the following mindset: "oh no, he really really really wants me to cum so I'm gonna fake it for his benefit." That's gigantic fail.

    Can you give her a clit orgasm? IME it is 11ty times easier to make a girl cum from clitoral stimulation (either mouth, fingers, or your fingers during sex*) than to give her a vaginal orgasm. Every women I've dated I've given clit orgasms. Not every woman has been able to have a vag orgasm.


    *I think a chick rubbing her own clit during sex is strange. It would be like me giving myself a handjob while the girl kisses me or something. I want to be the one to get her off, otherwise I don't feel needed.
     
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    this. every girl might be different. if you are struggling, you're going to need to ask what works for her
     
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  10. antihero

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    seconded. I can play it by ear by just breaking out different stuff and seeing what works, but if the ONLY trick in your bag is porno pounding, you really need to expand your repertoire. The reason all pornos are like that is because thats what guys want to see, not because thats what works.


    Also do some cardio, and learn to pace yourself. If you give it your 100% you, of course, aren't going to last that long. Gotta learn to find a pace you can keep up and not exceed it.
     
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    I disagree, but its not that important...
     
  12. knucks

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    I see what you're saying, but 1. makes my job easier and 2. turns me on :bowdown::bowdown::bowdown:
     
  13. LBFilmGuy

    LBFilmGuy LOL why u mad tho?

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    :werd: A lot of chicks don't, it depends on how sexual they are and how comfortable they are with you. I think some chicks see having an orgasm with a guy as a really big deal emotionally.
     
  14. LBFilmGuy

    LBFilmGuy LOL why u mad tho?

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    I love it when they do tell me they're about to cum though, that's for sure. :h5:
     
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    truth.
     
  16. wolfskymoon

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    try working out.
     
  17. Toxica

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    That's about the easiest way of getting me off during sex. So I hope not all guys think like that lol. :hs:

    Rubbing my clit alone feels pretty good. G-spot orgasms feel great. Put both orgasms together and it's like I'm in heaven. So actually you are needed. It's not like she is only getting a clitoral orgasm, it's more like a mixture of both (at least it is for me).
     
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    I usually do because I don't want him to stop what he is doing. The worst is when you get SOOOO close, and he changes rhythm. :rl: That is unless he is doing it to tease. :mamoru: But, after I have like two, it all meshes together and feels so amazing I don't really say much. And he has said he can tell that I have had the first one, but nothing really after that.

    Plus I think that steps into the "dirty talk" for some girls and may be uncomfortable for them.
     
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    I hate to get on your case but..aren't you a virgin? You should probably read and not post in sex advice threads.
     
  20. LBFilmGuy

    LBFilmGuy LOL why u mad tho?

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    I can usually tell too, it's easier to tell when I am fingering/licking/eating. :naughty:
     
  21. Lucky Penny

    Lucky Penny Mr. cut me some slack cause I don't wanna go back,

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  22. Falconer

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    Here's how I see it.

    If a chick is responsible for her own orgasms, then I don't have much value as a guy (especially when compared to other men with whom she didn't have to take care of herself).

    Reverse it: A chick wouldn't have much sexual value to me if I was responsible for my own orgasm while I was with her.

    So if I'm fucking a chick and she has to rub her clit to make herself come, I don't feel like a good, valuable lover.

    Of course, I have no problem rubbing her clit while we fuck, whether she's on her back and I'm on my knees between her legs fucking her with one of my hands on her clit (and the other one around her throat :naughty: ) or if it's doggystyle and I'm reaching around to rub her clit while I fuck her or what. I like it.
     
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    Women: Do this.
     
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    YES :bowdown:
     
  25. ...stimpy

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    Wait ...what?

    .. I mean, I don't get it???
    ..I mean, it's not going to stroke itself :hs:

    :ugh2:

    :bigthumb:
     

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