SRS i cant cry

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  1. pew pew pew

    pew pew pew OT Supporter

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    so a lot of crappy stuff has happen to me over the last year... discovered my dad was cheating on my mom with hookers/escorts and had to tell her, got dumped by a girl i fell in love with, some other things... for the last couple years though, it seems like i cant cry. i feel like im in situations where it would appropriate to cry but i just feel bummed out and can't really push my emotions over the top and let it all out. i see a therapist and things seem to go well with him but for some reason when push comes to shove, i just cant seem to let it all out... things just seem gray instead of black in those situations and it is frustrating. :hs:

    anyone have advice?

    cliffs: want to cry; cant, even at appropriate times
     
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    cut some onions. not kidding.
     
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    People put too much value in crying these days. Used to be, people didn't cry all that much....now everyone's crying and it's really sickening.

    When I watch TV or movies these days, it seems like there are so many scenes that are simply there to try and make people tear up. It's false emotionalism and false connections to help people "feel" something.....and IMO it's lame as shit.

    Fuck that....give me someone with real emotions not someone that thinks, oh in situation A, I laugh, situation B, I cry...this is situation B, cry time.

    You can't cry. So fucking what? Don't cry....address your problems directly and solve them.
     
  4. pew pew pew

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    i feel like im stifling my emotions... im like man i wish i could just cry/get mad and let this all out but i intellectualize it and just think obsessively. just want to yell and let it all out but just cant. im just saying is i do feel things i just cant let myself go
     
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    Maybe you need a different therapist. Ive been to a bunch in my time, some of them have no idea what they are doing.
     
  6. Coottie

    Coottie BOOMER......SOONER OT Supporter

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    so yell and scream

    The whole idea of "letting it all out" is overrated. It's not like your problems magically disappear when this happens. No they're still there and you have to address them. Instead of focusing on why you can't cry....how about focusing on solving the problems in your life that are stressing you out??

    If you're stressed and need to destress....don't fucking cry....go workout. Lift weights till you're exhausted, ride a bicycle till you can't go any further, run 20 miles. If you're still stressed, exercise more. Get plenty of sleep, drink lots of water, take a multivitamin.

    There's lots of other ways to deal with stress other than crying. However, many people use tears for a reason or to create some effect in other people. Fuck that....be genuine. If you're stressed, deal with the stress.

    If you do this, then when something really emotionally touches you or when you are overwhelmed emotionally, you won't think....damn I need to cry.....you'll just cry. Believe me, I know how nice it can be to finally cry but I don't look to crying as a method to help me de-stress.
     
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    Lucky Penny Mr. cut me some slack cause I don't wanna go back,

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    I feel so much better if I go to kick boxing class or to the rock climbing gym when I'm upset. If I cry, I just feel like shit after :dunno:
     

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