FRK I came to OT for advice. v.i'm seriously fucked

Discussion in 'Vaginarium' started by CaptainFarrell4, Oct 22, 2007.

  1. So the last few months, I've been going to a fetish club as a single. When I met the owner of the club, she was really nice and forward as to getting me to the club but it seems the other patrons aren't as inviting. I find it difficult to initiate conversation, as it's painfully obvious I would be sexually attractive to the women I'm talking to and we all know how those conversations go sometimes. A couple of times, I've had guys initiate conversations, which is dandy fine with me because I'm all about getting to know everyone, but it's just a passing conversation and I'm back to being creepy single guy.

    So the question, I pose to OT FS'ers, those that go to fetish clubs, how did you get integrated and how long did it take?
     
  2. Rich

    Rich New Member

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    Sounds like you need some pick up lines.
     
  3. You mean "Did you wash that corset in Windex? Because I can see myself in it later tonight" doesn't fly anymore?

    Bitches just don't know....
     
  4. Bubba Atlantis

    Bubba Atlantis New Member

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    I presume you are male and single? That can be a common problem. If you are going to different clubs, women have an easy time of things and men tend to get the cold shoulder. I think a lot of people are cautious of that sleezy guy going to a 'kinky' club to try to pick up women....so that probably plays a role
     
  5. Phantom Empress

    Phantom Empress mmmmmm tasty!!!

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    just keep trying. amybe make some female friends OUTSIDE the club and bring them with you.

    i'm not a big fan of clubbing, but I've found if you go in with a group looking sociable, the larger group will see you as less of a creep and accept you faster.
     
  6. Actually, I've just been going to the one club. This is also something I'm completely new to, as far as being in a "open" place as far as fetish goes, so it only compounds my inability to operate socially.

    I don't mind the "proving my worth" part and showing them i'm not just making it a fly by night but it's fairly expensive for me to go, so it'd be nice to know there's at least a light at the end of the tunnel.

    Yeah, already been down this road. I don't even know that many people that like it, so meeting new people was pretty much the whole reason for going.

    It's funny, when I did know people or have girlfriends who dug it, I was awkward and uncomfortable but now that I don't know anyone, I'm really wanting to get into it.
     
  7. Phantom Empress

    Phantom Empress mmmmmm tasty!!!

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    is this a BD/SM club? Couple openly playing or is it part Dance club part fetish club with various things going on?

    Down here the monthy fetish club parties have over 800 - 2000 attendees and it's EASY to just go and make friends.
     
  8. BDSM, not necessarily couples openly playing, but men/women, women/women openly playing.

    I think you just answered my question. This place is about 30 to 50 people at the most.
     
  9. Phantom Empress

    Phantom Empress mmmmmm tasty!!!

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    umm yeah. those small clubs are HARD to infiltrate.

    I went to an art show/rope bondage club meeting, 25 people there maximum. it was weird because iwas an acquaintance of the guy that cohosted the event and tigre was with me but since we were not in the social circle these people had, it was strange (even as just observers, we weren't there to play)and we didn't really get invited in too quickly.

    I think it has to do with you entering a world that they have established a trust in. They know no on ein there will rat them out or look on them with ill willbecasue they are all part of the group. anew commer will find it hard to get let intot he fold...
     
  10. Sounds like I need to slink back into the borough, Meerkat Manor-style.
     
  11. VulgarTheClown

    VulgarTheClown A child and a gun.....go together like apple pie a

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    When I started to go to fetish parties I was friends with the bar back. I would chill with him when he could and then kinda wander when he was busy.

    I became a regular face then started making small talk to anyone that would talk to me. When the conversations started taking that lul I would back out and go back to wandering.

    I eventually became acquainted with some people and would be able to just walk up and start talkin to them which introduced me to others.

    I was then befriended by one of the more popular guys in the club (he was the acid dealer) and so i was readily accepted into all groups once introduced by my friend.

    I guess I just kinda got lucky.

    moral of the story, just talk to anyone that will talk. I'm known as a funny guy, just cause I'm in a fetish club doesn't mean I gotta be all gothy and serisous. Just be yourself people will like you or not thats just how it is.
     
  12. And to think, it was just as easy as being friends with the Acid dealer.....
     
  13. VulgarTheClown

    VulgarTheClown A child and a gun.....go together like apple pie a

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    I knew I would get criticism for that.
     
  14. Phantom Empress

    Phantom Empress mmmmmm tasty!!!

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    :hug: it's ok. A friend of mine and his twin sister are like my link to the deviant world. She became a porn actress and i s now in jail and he used to deal coke and other drugs in high school. good people, mixed up in bad shit.
     
  15. It don't make you a bad person.
     

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