I asked this girl to hang out a few weeks ago

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  1. I was kind of drunk when I texted her, and last night I get a response (after about 2 weeks)

    She says "Hey, sorry. I don't think I'd be opposed"

    What should I make of this?
     
  2. Kev07

    Kev07 New Member

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    :wtf:

    dont answer that, text/call her a few days later and ask her if she wants to go grab coffee or whatevs
     
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    Wait and then try again, but if she takes some time to respond again (more than a day) move on.
     
  4. Sent her a text asking when she wanted to hang out today

    And tonight she IMs me and says "Hi" but I was in the shower, so when I got back, she had signed off
     
  5. haargerman

    haargerman ayuh.

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    give it a few days
     
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    just_another_on New Member

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    I'd give it a couple days so you don't seem 'eager', but at the same time, if you do want to go out with her, give her a call.
     
  7. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    My same response from the main forum thread applies here:

    The other guy she really wanted turned her down/bailed.
     
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  9. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    What's confusing about that?

    If a girl waits 2 weeks to respond to you it means she had someone else in mind before you and it most likely fell through, so now she's settling for this guy.
     
  10. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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  11. saosko

    saosko OT Supporter

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    overgeneralization ftl.
     
  12. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :rofl: Whatever you want to tell yourself :dunno:
     
  13. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    It's the most likely reason for that kind of reaction. :dunno: Name me another reason a girl could take 2 weeks to respond to a text and I'll give you a reason that's less likely than the one beer stated.
     
  14. saosko

    saosko OT Supporter

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    There are many reasons that could factor into a delayed response, why over analyze? The important thing is she answered and is interested, get it and move on.
     
  15. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Pretty sure the TS is in a relationship also, BTW.
     
  16. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Oh no no no. That's not overanalyzing. And my god, do you really think you should just never think at all? If a girl takes 2 weeks to respond, you damn well better believe it means something.
     
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    If you're wanting something serious with her, sure.

    She took the bait, that's all that matters.
     
  19. Amanda Ann

    Amanda Ann New Member

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    :rofl: Sometimes I don't text friends back for days at a time when I'm crazy busy and have a lot going on. My gf in NYC probably wants to kill me because she's been calling/texting since Thurs to book a room in Miami and I'm just now planning to call tonight. So, yeah, it happens. I've done it to guys.
     
  20. Cobra Commander

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    text her saying that you and your four black friends are chillin in your garage and wondering what she's doing

    wait..your black right?
     
  21. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    First off, taking a couple days to text someone back is different than taking two weeks. Second, taking time to respond to someone who knows you take time responding is also different. Third, taking time to respond to a friend is different than taking time to respond to a romantic/sexual interest. Fourth, there are exceptions to every rule, but that doesn't change the fact that generally speaking if a dude texts a girl he's interested in and she takes two weeks to text him back, she's got other shit going on and she thinks that other shit is significantly more important than the dude.
     
  22. Amanda Ann

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    Ok, well fifth, I know I've def done it with guys, because, yes, sometimes things going on are more important than someone I barely know/have just met. It happens. Things aren't always 'xyz'. I feel like sometimes in here everyone is a negative nancy and likes to throw out the worst case scenario like it's the be all and end all. Sometimes it's not. Sometimes there's shades of grey (and, sometimes there aren't - but we never really know for sure). Personally, I think sometimes rules and thoughts need to be thrown out the window and we need to go with the flow. Just my opinion though - but what do I know? :dunno:
     
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    2 weeks is not a shade of grey. its black and im with everyone saying her other dude/plans fell through
     
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    not to make more excuses for this girl but how do you know she wasn't on vacation? or had a broken phone?


    and with that i'm ending my rationale. i don't feel the need to defend my opinion any further :o
     
  25. Kev07

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    doesnt matter if she had plans with another guy and it failed, the only thing that is really important here is that she texted back and showed some interest, meaning you should proceed.

    however it is also a sign that you should be cautious with tihs girl
     

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