I am writing a book on dating.

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  1. Afanasi

    Afanasi Heterosapien

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    This book is a bit unique, I'd say.

    I call it "The Pessimist's Guide to Dating" and it is essentially mirroring my viewpoint that relationships generally don't last and that one must be selfish to survive. I include tips and tricks that have always worked for me to either solve common problems or ways in which to avoid bad matches.

    Yes, there is an evil theme to it...but I feel that a lot of what I have to write about could be useful for anyone.

    So, is there anything you all could think of that you would like to see addressed in a dating guide?
     
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    fascinating. i'm writing a book on triathlons, maybe we can exchange notes.
     
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    A friendly sophisticated looking cover so women passing by don't see you reading "A Pessimist's Guide to Dating"
     
  4. RollinDollos

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    I'm writing a book called "Big Loads to the Face"
     
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    yeah

    why you think you're a good source of information
     
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    You could do 3 parts: Prior to dating, During dating, and Post dating (breakup). Go over some Dos and Don'ts for each.
     
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    why would a person pessimistic towards dating even date?
     
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    Is it going to be a single pager? first page "DON'T" the end.
     
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    if you are going to be writing a book you should consider learning the proper use of the word "unique"
     
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    :rofl:
     
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    dating =/= relationships
     
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    oh, has my theme been used already?
     
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    why might anyone else be? there isn't a degree in dating that one can acquire at the local university. though, since i HAVE been to a university (great source of women), I've done a lot of dating and I've had relationships, and during all of that I've made an enormous amount of mistakes, and every once in a while I figure out something that's "right" to do. while I believe it's impossible to know everything, i admit that, and I only talk about what I have learned from my failures and successes.


    another good thing to think about: is old age a certification in knowing all on dating? I personally don't think so, since I still see older people make plenty of mistakes, or get into fights. in the end, nobody is truly an expert, which is why I feel like I could write a book on it and still be taken seriously.
     
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    There are plenty of books/resources you're talking about.

    This seems much more like a self-serving endeavor than a genuine attempt to help people out.
     
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    unique means "one of a kind"

    which doesn't vary by degrees
     
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    well then, thanks for your concern
     
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    well i've been the ear for many people with relationship problems, handing out advice when I can. a lot of us have probably been in that situation. now, i just feel like writing a book with the advice i give.

    how might it be self-serving?
     
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    if something is worth doing (writing), its worth doing right :bigthumb:
     
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    So where are you drawing the line? Is this book purely about casual dating? If you're talking about dating that leads to a serious relationship, at what point does the "dating" stop and the "relationship" begin?
     
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    Generally those who write books on dating do so by gathering opinions other than their own. In fact, I cannot think of a single book I've read where the author was the sole perspective offered. Usually the author starts with an idea, then gathers data from others on the subject and compiles it into a book.
     
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    Do your thing dude, if people want to hate then tell them to write their own book. For all we know you could have some profound things to say. I think you should put a fat chapter in about how to receive messages. I heard that a girl playing with her hair around you is an indication that she needs a mate to groom her. WTF
     
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    are you going to self publish, ebook, or go through a publisher?

    how long is your book gonna be?

    do you have a table of contents? outline?
     
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    also make sure you include the irony that being selfish and protecting yourself will be successful and work up until you find the person who is actually an ideal match for you, in which case it will backfire.

    Hence the saying "love like you will never get hurt" or whatever the saying is.
     
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    well isn't everything in life a continual process of gathering other opinions and ideas, trying them out, and sticking with what works?
     
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    haven't decided on publishing or anything, i'd rather finish it first and then see how it turns out.

    maybe 50-100 pages?

    i planned a brief list of topics/chapters but i've never written using outlines
     

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