SRS I am not myself

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  1. childofbean

    childofbean Green Member

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    I recently broke things off with my boyfriend, who was nothing but good to me.
    When asking why I decided to end things, I gladly poured out a list of flaws to him. Sure, there are little things about him that bugged me, but for some reason they became extremely pronounced near the end of our relationship.
    We weren't together for all that long, maybe 3 months. I got along so well with his family, as he did with mine. When looking back on all that we've done together, I feel like it was all a dream; and right now I feel almost as if he never even existed. I feel rather numb about the whole situation.
    That's the part that confuses me... I know everything we had was real, but the time we were together just seems like a dream. It feels like the morning after an extremely long slumber, where I try to remember what it was that I dreamt about, but all I can remember are small bits and pieces.
    I don't even feel like myself anymore. Maybe this whole transitioning from high school to college is what's really messing me up, or maybe my brain is deteriorating, hah.
    I feel like I died and have come back to life. There's really no good way to explain the feeling. :hs:
    Or maybe I still am dead and am just now realizing it.
     
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    Either thats totally normal or we're both nuts in the same way. Everyone i've dated, even guys i've dated for years, shortly after the breakup the details of our relationship fade VERY quickly. Like any other major life change, I immediately can't imagine going back and very shortly after that can't even remember what being with them was like.
     
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    I don't see what the problem is. Seems like all women go through the "I'm not myself" phase and end up doing stupid shit. I've caught my girlfriend doing it once a few months and acts weird and does weird shit. I call her out on the bullshit and she says "I'm not feeling like myself". She's young so I imagine it had something to do with maturity and age. I take it you're around 20 - 22ish?
     
  4. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I've been there, and it was also during a transition phase (moving from one college to another).

    I met this guy and we dated for about 4 months. When I look back it was probably some of the happiest moments, and I don't even know why. The guy I dated was just the kindest soul I'd ever met and he just adored me. His family loved me, I loved them, my family loved him, etc. etc. We took a trip together and it was perfect :mb: Then I just realized we weren't right for each other, we really just didn't fit for life, and I dumped him.

    I was really sad after and in a total daze. I seriously was a zombie for a month or 2 because I just kept thinking "why did I really do that? Am I going to meet somone again who will mke me feel that way?" And then 2 months later I met my current bf and we've been together 2 years later :)

    My advice? Just relax. Like me you're probably overthinking it and thinking you should feel and act one certain way, but everyone can handle things in a different way.
     
  5. RedZ71

    RedZ71 Large Marge sent me.

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    ive been divorced now for just a bit over 3 months, and right now, i cannot remember my exwifes face or the sound of her voice. what your going thru is probably fairly normal.
     
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    If i where you id call him up and say sorry, i didn't know what hit me, i love you and don't want to end the relationship at all.

    As it seems to me your just throwing bricks into your own windows, or burning your own ships for no reason. Its like you need to find a reason why you should allow yourself to be happy. Its better to go back to him, look everyone has flaws including you, everyone needs some slack space. Don't go into a relationship expecting the 'perfect man', he just needs to fit within a reasonable scale, otherwhise you are the one who is unreasonable, and quite frankly that does seem to be the case.
     
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    GlassUser send an email not a pm OT Supporter

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    When you're that young, you get too much of your identity from who you're with. You'll get over it. Just give it time.
     
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    GlassUser send an email not a pm OT Supporter

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    BTW walk over and let's hook up. :naughty:
     
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    RedZ71 Large Marge sent me.

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    no, ignore him, ill be in league city for a few days, in a few days. (ill actually *pick* you up... no walking necessary!) heh
     
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    GlassUser send an email not a pm OT Supporter

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    I live about two blocks over. Nice try.
     
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    and this is very true, unfortunately
     
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    Yep. So about that beer . . .
     
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    Shine that green laser of yours into the sky and I'll come find you :naughty:
     
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    That must be normal, but I never forget a face or everything we shared together. I will however forget names.
     
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    Hard to see at the moment.
     
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    :rolleyes:
     
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    You think you're witty.
     
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    Get out of my thread, you. :squint:
     
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    GlassUser send an email not a pm OT Supporter

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    You come to my city, I come to your thread.
    Stop flirting, you're not my type.
     
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    wait, what? :420:

    I'm not talking about regretting things, I'm talking about how it all seems so surreal to me. The past couple of months seem nothing but a dream to me.
     
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    unless I want a wat? :confused:
     
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    Soooo... feeling any better now?
     

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