i am dating someone that loves 2 people.

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  1. Joser

    Joser Active Member

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    first, we became best friends. (we are neighbors in college dorms)
    she broke up with her bf for 3 years
    after 2 weeks. we got physical
    she thought it was just gonna be that.
    we fell in love.
    we have been through alot for the past 3 months. (known each other for 6 months)

    she says that we fit.
    she says that im perfect.
    she says that im her ticket way out of her past relationship.
    she says that i made her felt something she has never felt before.
    she says she loves me and supposedly when she says it, its real.
    she says her mind wants to be with me but her feelings are divided.
    she asked me to be understanding
    she asked to be patience so she can decide.
    now he is coming over tomorrow and staying in her place for 3 days.
    she said nothing will happen. she promised me and gave me her word.
    but she also said anything can happen

    now i dont know what to do. help me OT :hsd:
    i have never been with a girl that i can see a future with.
    - i really like her. i love her.
     
  2. MattThom01

    MattThom01 New Member

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    You're being used. The bolded statements (her statements are conflicting). I suggest ending it.
     
  3. scent of a wookie

    scent of a wookie OT Supporter

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    leave her, not worth it
     
  4. Phantom Empress

    Phantom Empress mmmmmm tasty!!!

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    she'll do the same to you when she gets a new flavor of the month
     
  5. islanderman7

    islanderman7 New Member

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    Not Worth It
     
  6. quamen

    quamen New Member

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    fuck her bro. play the reverse shit and dump her ass and she will come running back ,but damn not worth it.
     
  7. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    having been in this situation, I told her that if she wants to be with someone else, she should go ahead and do that and I wasn't going to wait around

    Either she chose me, or he didn't choose her, not sure which but unfortunately we were together for 7 years :)
     
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  8. Joser

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    i really dont know what to do. pretty much if she sleeps with him which i think it will happen. then it will be over between us. i am here anxious and i dont know what to do.
     
  9. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    Find someone else. You are just her rebound.
     
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    qft
     
  11. Two toys

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    probably, I'm a hopeless romantic though and hope he's more that that to her haha. but dude a girls not gonna pass up weiner from her ex.. you either stop that shit and beat his fucking ass (figuratively of course) before he sees her or forget about her... or tell her if he comes over its over between you two... BUT YOU HAVE TO DO THIS BEFORE HE COMES OVER!

    tell her to fuck off and die if she says no... if you were so great she wouldnt risk fucking him and losing you.
     
  12. Alexqzilla

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    "Yeah I love you but I don't know who I have feelings for. I'm going to let him sleep over for 3 nights, nothing'll happen babe I swear I love you kthx"

    If you stay with her, you're retarded.

    How would she feel if you had your ex girlfriend over for 3 days while you weren't there?
     
  13. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    I'm realistic and so I think he's nuts to put up with that. I say he's a rebound because they were together for 3 years and he hooks up with her 2 weeks later and she says he's her ticket way out of her past relationship. She shouldn't need something to get her out of the relationship, she should get out of it because she doesn't want to be with the guy anymore, not because someone new came along that she might like. And if the girl liked him at all she's pass up the weiner from the ex without a 2nd thought.
     
  14. Two toys

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    not true.. it is possible to have feelings for 2 people. I think a girl could easily like or love someone and still sleep with someone else especially if she was/is still in love with him.
     
  15. Kinks

    Kinks Sup. OT Supporter

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    LEAVE HER NOW

    lc

    having been through the same thing, it's not worth it. Even if she picks you, the fact that she could be interested in someone else will gnaw away at your confidence. you don't love her, you're just attracted to her.
     
  16. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    If she loved you she wouldn't be letting her ex come stay with her in her room for 3 days.

    You people think you know what love is, but you do not.
     
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    LongDongWong U can call me Mr.Wong

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    it's inevitable ......she'll take you through a life of hell......rollarcoaster emotions and your self confidence will be destroyed.......believe me i've been there, was in the same problem for 3years....she was torn between me and the ex-bf. Get rid of her now and you'll look back and be glad you did........been there and lived it ......you dont want that.
     
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    Shes using you in place for him.. now, heres the big question, why is he coming to stay for 3 days and says she keeps her word that NOTHING will happen but then says that "anything CAN happen". Big bold statements being made here.

    Can you spot the difference?

    I'm sorry but I feel bad to say this but if I was personally in your shoes I would end things. Either she gets ALL and ONLY ME or nothing at all.. this is a two way street. It takes both of you to make it work.. she cannot be driving down one way and then making a U turn and go back..
     
  20. guiltybystand3r

    guiltybystand3r On a long enough timeline, the survival rate for e

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    Runs trains on the good for nothing whore and then kick her to the curb!

    "Chinese Finger Cuffs"
     
  21. Yail Bloor

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    Why else would her ex be coming to stay for 3 days? Just to talk?

    Of course they are going to have sex...
     
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    MattThom pointed out some statements that were conflicting, but these seem to be the main two to me.

    Oh yeah, who invites their ex to their place for three days, one of which being Valentine's Day without the notion for physical intimacy? That's like her borrowing your car and promising to drive safely, then turning around and chugging a 5th of Jack Daniels.

    Others have said it. She's not respecting you or the relationship that the two of you have. What you do is your choice.
     
  24. julia!

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    She admitted she is using you as a rebound. As hard as it is to accept she is more than likely not in love with just in lust for someone new who is good to her. You should not have to deal with her staying with him and if she loved you she would not want to see him still and be "divided" you should end it because youre just going to get hurt worse later and i guarantee she is going to cheat on you at some point with him.
     
  25. Peyton Manning

    Peyton Manning I love your mom a whole, whole lot.

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    everything i wanted to say has already been said, so listen to this guy.

    i dont think you will but there's always hope. :x:
     

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