Humans are animals... how to train your SO.

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  1. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    Husbands around the world - rejoice! Nagging doesn't work! (link)

    "Positive reinforcement from your spouse, including a reduction in nagging, tolerance and appreciation for doing something, seems to work better than the opposite. Probably the same is true for men who chew out their significant others... No more nagging for anyone!"

    Caught this on Digg. Makes sense to me :dunno:
     
  2. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    my girlfriend, of over a 1year, has never gotten to hold the remote without permission.... im dead fucking serious. oh and i push her head down to my cock til she gives up

    sadly thats no april fools joke....
     
  3. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    That's probably why my bf is perfect for me. He uses me to make all his decisions and I love it. Even at his place he'll just hand me the remote and say "find something" :rofl:
     
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    You like that? That kinda goes against what most advice is on girls about how the guy should do everything.
     
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    Unless there is something specific on that I want to watch that I know is on at that moment I could give a fuck. I'll just toss her the remote and tell her to find something.

    Of course, sometimes she turns it onto "America's Next Top Model" or "What Not to Wear" and in those cases I just say "Nope, gotta find something else".
     
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    No organism responds to positive or negative punishment as well as they do to positive or negative reinforcement.
     
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    kittahs respond well to 'BAD KITTAH!'
     
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    haha if this is true then why have guys been ignoring nagging but it still goes on? :)
     
  9. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Aquarius, which is good because I am a Capricorn. I never dated an Aquarius and I know going by the signs is supposed to be bullshit, but they say both signs fit together well. Aquarius men usually want a stable independent woman.

    :mamoru: If you haven't noticed yet, I love having my way and being right.

    And it's bullshit that me should have to do everything.
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    because nagging could still work in the short term.
     
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    as a libra im offended. i can easily make important decisions.. i just cant ever decide what i want to eat :o
     
  12. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    What is the difference between negative reinforcement and punishment?

    For that matter, what would positive punishment be?
     
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    positive punishment = beating, actively punishing
    negative punishment = denial of pleasures, ignoring

    positive reinforcement = rewarding good behavior with pleasure
    negative reinforcement = punishing bad behavior


    :dunno: this is just a guess.
     
  14. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    from http://www.psychology.uiowa.edu/Faculty/wasserman/Glossary/Paradigms.html

    Positive Reinforcement

    In an attempt to increase the likelihood of a behavior occurring in the future, an operant response is followed by the presentation of an appetitive stimulus. This is positive reinforcement.

    If you stroke a cat's fur in a manner that is pleasing to the cat it will purr. The cat's purring may act as a positive reinforcer, causing you to stroke the cat's fur in the same manner in the future.

    Negative Reinforcement

    In an attempt to increase the likelihood of a behavior occurring in the future, an operant response is followed by the removal of an aversive stimulus. This is negative reinforcement.

    When a child says "please" and "thank you" to his/her mother, the child may not have to engage in his/her dreaded chore of setting the table. Therefore, not having to set the table will act as a negative reinforcer and increase the likelihood of the child saying "please" and "thank you" in the future.


    Positive Punishment

    In an attempt to decrease the likelihood of a behavior occurring in the future, an operant response is followed by the presentation of an aversive stimulus. This is positive punishment.

    If you stroke a cat's fur in a manner that the cat finds unpleasant, the cat may attempt to bite you. Therefore, the presentation of the cat's bite will act as a positive punisher and decrease the likelihood that you will stroke the cat in that same manner in the future.


    Negative Punishment

    In an attempt to decrease the likelihood of a behavior occurring in the future, an operant response is followed by the removal of an appetitive stimulus. This is negative punishment.

    When a child "talks back" to his/her mother, the child may lose the privilege of watching her favorite television program. Therefore, the loss of viewing privileges will act as a negative punisher and decrease the likelihood of the child talking back in the future.
     
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    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    Of course, it follows the simple principles of behavorism. Too bad schools aren't smart enough to teach this stuff :o
     
  16. demosnat

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    Positive= Adding something to equation
    Negative= Taking something away from equation
    Reinforcement-Seeks to reinforce behavior
    Punishment=Seeks to discourage behavior.

    Hence
    Positive reinforcement: giving a treat/approval to reinforce behaviors you want
    Negative reinforcement: removing something unpleasant, ie baby stops crying (unpleasant to parent) when she gets whatever she was crying for

    Positive Punishment: adding something unpleasant, IE spanking
    Negative Punishment: Taking something pleasurable away, IE no X box when you don't do chores.
     
  17. demosnat

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    Nope :o
     
  18. demosnat

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    I know, I took every single psych course available (read, two) in high school, and I really think that basic psychology, health/ sex ed and finance management should be required.
    I constantly feel jipped (is that a word?) on my education living here :(
     
  19. MB300E87

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    the really sad thing is that this is just a lesson in common sense. but people will still do it thinking it will work.
     
  20. lauren

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    i had it in my intro psych course.... :dunno:
     
  21. Alaya

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    technically, it should be/was gypped -> jipped, so most people don't realize it's actually a derogatory term in the sense that it's referring to gypsies/roma.
     
  22. demosnat

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    I had no idea :eek3: thats really interesting
     
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    ugh. what happened to the old fashioned woman?
    i think its a man's job to have the remote while i massage his feet and pack the kids' lunch :rofl:... its true
     
  24. demosnat

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    Different lifestyles appeal to different people, a preference for one doesn't devalue the others.
     
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