SRS huge fear of dying...

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  1. DesignerAddic71

    DesignerAddic71 RIP Luther Vandross 1951-2005

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    i have a few phobias in my life (flying and needles for example), but none of them compare to my fear of dying. it has kept me up at night to know that one day i will die. one day my eyes will close and then never open again. is this normal??
     
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    I think it's common to feel it in at least two different stages of your lifetime (more for some people, less for others). When I was a kid it bothered me because I was just getting a grasp on mortality. I'm sure it passed in large part because of the invincible stage set in, so the fear eventually melted away.

    As you get older, I think it begins to rear it's head again because you start to feel as if you've forged you life's path now, and you realize that the person you've become is, well, that's who you are now -- and this is the person that's headed towards the end. This also leads to the what-if's, and coulda-shoulda's for some -- so I think it's very normal because many people go through it to varying degrees.

    If the fear stays with you for an extended period of time though, and starts to negatively impact your waking hours (lack of sleep, anxiety), then you may want to consider talking to someone about it.
     
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    A fear of death only leads to a lack of life
     
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    beanolo It does a body good!!!1

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    It's this fear of death that should lead you to living your life to the fullest.
     
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    I don't know how old you are, but it's not normal to be thinking about it to where it keeps you up at night. Everyone dies. It's a part of life. The quicker you accept this, the faster you can move on and enjoy your life.
     
  6. DesignerAddic71

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    I am 20, and for the most part it doesnt keep me from having fun and enjoying life because I try not to think of it too often. But when I do, it hits me hard and it completely overtakes my thoughts.

    When I was younger (around 9-10) I had a fascination of sorts with death. I used to talk to God almost everynight before I went to bed-not praying so much as just having a little conversation-and I used to question what it felt like to be dead (but then I would always reiterate that i was just wondering and didn't want to actually find out-i didn't want him showing me first hand lol).

    When I got to my early teens (around 14-15) I contemplated suicide. Not by violent means, but more along the lines of taking a lot of pills and falling asleep one final time.

    But somewhere along the lines, I started to fear death. It is hard for me to accept the fact that one day I will not be here. And while I don't let it run my life, it has definitely impacted it.
     
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    Ceasarino said ' One who is afraid of death, might as wel be afraid of their own shadow'

    Plus Darketernal ,your NR.1 source for Life after OT has something great stress relieving stories for you to read ;)

    http://www.aleroy.com/contents.html

    I would scream read all of it, but at least read , rediscover life. :wavey:
     
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    It's normal because we live in a fallen world. It's abnormal because we were to reflect the image of God and we don't do that so well. Still, there's hope :).
    www.ginkworld.net
     
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    Interesting thread.

    I share a somewhat similiar fear; but somewhat different.

    For me, I fear what happens after death. I have a huge tendancy to over-analyze things (its my career choice perhaps).. Some sleepless nights I lay and wonder what happens after death. What I could possibly physically feel; what I could mentally feel or think.. My head goes off into some deep deep shit about the future of our souls, etc. Needless, I rarely get sleep on these nights.

    The other fear I have is the death of those close to me. Some days it consumes me more then others.. but my dad is getting older (64) and he has now passed some sort of record for oldest living on his side of the family. Long line of heart disease, etc.. so there is something in the back of my mind that says he's blazing a new trail and I seriously fear the other side of that..
     
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    I have the same fear. I eliminate it by working out, taking various supplements proven to reduce the aging process, not smoking, and keeping updated on the news. For example they froze dogs for 3 hours and brought them back to life. No one can be immortal but I'll fight like a bitch to live as long as I can :)
     
  11. DesignerAddic71

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    i have read most of it, and everything i have read thus far makes sense. some of it made me think of things that i never had before. i never really contemplated my purpose here on earth. i don't think i was put here for any particular reason or purpose. im just kinda here going through the motions of what i think life should be like.

    Dave-i read through the website you provided as well. im not very religious, so it was a bit overwhelming/confusing to me. but i am trying to absorb as much as i can.

    datacomguy-i think thats a part of why i fear dying, is that i dont know what happens next. i also dread the day that my loved ones pass on, i know the day my father passes a part of me will go too. and quite frankly im not ready for that just yet.

    spiritus-i try to maintian a healthy lifestyle. i eat sensibly. i work out a few times a week. i dont get all crazy with it though, cause i think that when its supposed to happen it will happen. and nothing can change that.
     
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    im very similar. i dont believe in heaven and all that, honestly i dont know what i believe happens after we pass on. but the fact that one day i wont exist really terrifies me too
     
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    Why does there have to be something after death? I can accept that once I die, that's it. Nothing after that. It doesn't freak me out to know there's nothing after death.
     
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    But doesn't it freak you out to know that one day you will die?
     
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    There doesn't necessarily have to be.. but that just throws another edge into the thought.
     
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    Imagine your dad would die, would your dad love to see you suffer for years in bitterness and you crying over his dead? Of course not, he wants you to be happy and move on with your life, so instead of dying for a deceased one , start living for that person.

    One more thing, for whatever value my words are worth for you i know for sure there
    is life after death. I had an encounter with a higher spiritual being myself at the age of 12 which proved to me that yes there is more to this then just the body being alive and dying. It was shown to me that all worries in this life are no real worries at all.

    Relax, just be a loving and helping soul and it will be alright.
     
  17. DesignerAddic71

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    Well, no, he wouldn't. But the immense guilt i would feel for leading a happy life after his death would probably get the best of me after a while.

    I believe you about the life after death. This thread has helped me a lot with coming to terms with death in itself. I mean as much as I dont particularly like my life right now, its still my life and i dont like the fact that it can be taken from me at any moment without my input or knowledge.

    Thank you so much for your kind words. Ever since MB left, i have been reluctant to post here in hte asylum. MB kinda took me under his wing and i have made huge progress with his help. but i no longer will be reserved about posting here. you guys are great.
     
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    Reasonable men adapt to the world. Unreasonable men try to adapt the world to themselves.







    Therefor progress relies on the unreasonable man.

    Look into life extention, instead of just assuming you will die in 80 years. You will be suprised at the progress being made and it seems to boon more each year.

    At least it will take your focus off the fear.
     
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    Honestly, not really. It's a natural part of life. No one lives forever. Everyone has to go at one point or another, so there's no point in really worrying about it.
     
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    whats there to fear really? when you are dead, you wont know it.

    i guess...what exactly are you afraid of, death, pain aspect, family?
     
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    SICK GUY 69, DUDE!!

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    its the one thing we know for sure about in life, we all die. i guess you can hope to live long and prosper, but if you dont, there isnt a whole lot you can do. not to be a downer about it, but its true.

    think of it in a new perspective. i think death is sort of exciting, because nobody really knows what its like. everyone has an idea of what death is, and some have even slightly experienced it, but nobody know for sure. some people have to wait 100 years to experience it, and some find out sooner (sadly)
     
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    No, you don't. You're just an extremely religious person who comes on here to try and spread your message. You don't know anything that I or anyone else doesn't know.

    One of the main problems I have with religion is that it encourages people to worry less about this life, because they have the next one coming. You should worry about making the most of this life. There's nothing wrong with that. Whether or not there is life after death, your life on earth is the same. I believe that this is the only life we have, so if you believe that, and your life sucks, of course you'll obsess over it.

    So just make the most of the life you're guaranteed to have, because nobody knows for sure what happens when you die. Then if you get older, and your life still sucks, start becoming religious. :x:
     
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    We were born to die.
    It's just a fact.
    However, we were given the GIFT of life.
    I say forget about dying and concentrate on living.
    Don't get sucked down into a vortex of existentialism.
     
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    i ve got the same problem. sometimes i feel better if i think of all my years to come, and that hopefully, i'll be able to think back and be happy/proud of what i've done and be ready to die. I too don't really believe in god and stuff. what's it like after death? in my head, the exact same as before birth.
     

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