How to turn off emotions?

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  1. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    Is there any way you can switch it on and off? How do you control your emotions? To me it has always been a matter of time. But generally I have a hard time getting my guards up and killing the unnecessary emotions. I don't transfer my sadness to others tho and mostly keep all the emotions for myself.

    I remember this thing about scarlet in "gone with the wind", she used to tell herself "I think about it tomorrow" whenever something happened that was unpleasant and could make her sad and then she would never think about it, always saying tomorrow or later. I used this technique when I was much younger and it actually helped me. Right now it doesn't! Any new idea? I just need a quick fix now:o!
     
  2. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Same thing I told you in your last thread about the same subject-seek a therapist. Get to the root of why you are so emotional and why you are prone to crying at the drop of a hat.
     
  3. haargerman

    haargerman ayuh.

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    could the use of certain BC effect hormone levels to the point where you are just constantly emotional?
     
  4. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    I knew you were gonna say that!:mamoru: all women and even men in my family are like that. They easily cry if they get emotional. Actually I am known as the person who does not have a heart in my family:rofl: cause like I said I don't wanna appear as a crazy emotional person, I cry in my own room(and in the vag,lol) and would rather to joke around and act happy with others. This is why I try to avoid any situation that triggers bad emotions, don't wanna make people bored or sad:hs:

    Anyways, I'm done crying now, I just want to get my mind off of things quickly so that I can focus on work. Wondered if there is any way for it! I promise I go to a therapist once I have enough time to try to figure myself out:hs:
     
  5. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    Actually BC helped me.:eek3: I am not constantly emotional at all. I just broke up last night so I guess I have the right to be emotional for now:hsd:
     
  6. greenpillow

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    humm.. I think as long as your emotions are valid for the situation you should feel them and be allowed to feel them as long as you dont dwell on them.. You should get over it quickly. If you are chronically swinging from mood to mood you prob. need to see someone and be put on something.
     
  7. Socrates

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    Turning off your emotions and becoming a stoic person is not a good thing. Who would want to be around a person with no emotions?

    Besides that, it is extremely unhealthy.
     
  8. haargerman

    haargerman ayuh.

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    :hug:
     
  9. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    hmm, no thankfully I'm not like that. My mood does not swing without any reason.
     
  10. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    thanks :hs:
     
  11. antihero

    antihero OT Supporter

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    Have I told you how hot you are lately? :naughty:

















    but for serious. It sucks, but you just have to let yourself heal at your own pace. That doesn't mean you can't force yourself to do what you should, when its not what you want. :hug:
     
  12. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    lol :love:

    yeah, I'm trying to force myself, but it's not easy when thoughts find a way to your head. Guess I just have to suck it up!:squint:
     
  13. MattThom01

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    You can't turn them off. It's not normal or healthy to turn off emotions.

    You can try to numb them, but it usually ends badly (eating disorder, substance abuse, self-harm, etc) and can lead to being even more emotional.

    I agree with IWYWB, seek therapy. It can help.

    From my experience with therapy, the most you can do is learn to work on managing your thoughts...thoughts tend to lead to emotions, which in turn drive behavior.
     
  14. Viper

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    Did I miss something?

    You ended that shitty relationship you were in?
     
  15. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    lol, yep. It was not shitty the whole time, a few months last year and through the past month but I did have lots of fun in it:hs:
     
  16. Viper

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    Still, you're going to be much better off in time.
     
  17. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    fuck being healthy, what I need now is just a quick fix, I have a very important deadline I have to make! but I guess a quick fix just does not exist.
    once I'm done I seek therapy.
     
  18. Pringles

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    This guy is telling the truth. Enjoy your ability to convey how you feel. I was raised in a militant-german family and feel minimal to no emotion. I have the hardest time with long term relationships because females can't ever understand how I'm feeling.

    It's not something you want, enjoy your ability to feel.
     
  19. Phantom

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    for the TS, try yoga. Find a studio with pretty experienced instructors. I like vinyasa "flow." Just try it. I was a skeptic before being brought there dragging and screaming, but now it's a regular part of my life.

    After a class, my body is relaxed and nothing negative enters my mind for the rest of teh day.
     
  20. Genghis.Tron

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    People seek therapy exactly because they are capable of turning off their emotions. It's not a good solution :p
     
  21. iwishyouwerebeer

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    :hsugh: Or they learn to deal with the root of the problem and how to deal appropriately with their emotions.
     
  22. antihero

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    I think you are missing what he meant.
     
  23. Helios

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    According to you?

    Being overly emotional about every single thing isn't any healthier. Having some control over your mental and emotional state is a very good trait to have.
     
  24. Viper

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    Being emotional isn't a bad thing. It's when you allow those emotions to run your life that they become bad. :dunno:

    And I'd watch out looking for a "quick fix" to get you through this one time. That's how most addictions get started.
     
  25. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    If "How to flip the switch on emotions?" had an answer we would all be perfect.
     

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