how to tell gf i want to go out less

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  1. craigl33

    craigl33 New Member

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    i spend so much money going out, eating, entertainment. i just want to stay in and do nothing. how do i tell her that without her hating me for being boring, or her saying that she'll pay for stuff, or anything bad in general. i just graduated, got a job and i want to save at least a little money.
     
  2. lauren

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    i was in the same situation a while back, still am. the line "hey, i need to cut back on eating out/clubbing/whatever, i just cant rationalize the expense" works wonders.


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  3. zanadu

    zanadu OT Supporter

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    i'm in the same boat, gf ALWAYS wants to go out to eat, and they always end up being pricy restaurants and i always get stuck with the majority of the bill, what the fuck.

    I like to go out to eat too but not always, and i'm a student not a moneytree. Wimminz..
     
  4. ware_ru

    ware_ru I know, I know, I'm amazing

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    you guys are chodes. read the sticky in the archives section. you've a lot of changes to make in your lives. good luck
     
  5. Falconer

    Falconer OT Supporter

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    Easy:

    Don't date women who expect you to pay for everything.

    If you always pay, you don't know if she's dating you or your money.

    If she "hates you" for doing this, then she's not compatible with you and you'll find someone better.

    Does your GF have a job? Good, then she can pay her way. She'd have to pay to do something if she wasn't dating you, so why shouldn't pay even if she IS dating you?
     
  6. calisteph6

    calisteph6 Active Member

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    You guys have cunts for GF's. I'll let a guy pay like 3 times (I know the PUA's hate this, but a lot of guys are insulted if you insist on paying early on) before I INSIST on paying close to half the time. It's just stupid unless you make a ton more money than your GF.
     
  7. MattThom01

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    If you're in a mature, healthy relationship, this shouldn't be a big thing to worry about. Simply ask her if you guys can talk, and tell her how you feel. It's not unreasonable to want to cut back on the amount of times you go out. She should be just fine with spending quality time with you at home.

    If you need to soften things up a bit try saying something like "I love spending time with you when we go out, but I also think it would be nice to just have some relaxing time together in private". Also bring up the expense thing, regardless of who is paying for whom.

    Also, ware, explain your statement please. If you're going to call the OP a chode, and say he needs to make changes in his life, back it up. Tell him WHY he is a chode.

    Pretty much you just came in here, insulted the OP and then told him to read the sticky.

    Doesn't seem that helpful.
     
  8. calisteph6

    calisteph6 Active Member

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    werd. ware_ru you're getting out of control again. It's one thing to suggest another way to run some things to the OP. But you really don't need to insult him, the guy is just looking for a way to word things so his GF doesn't just think he's an asshole, nothing wrong with that.

    Of course maybe I shouldn't have called people's GFs cunts. :mamoru::o
     
  9. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    what's wrong with that? she should at least be paying her half most of the time
     
  10. demosnat

    demosnat New Member

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    her:'hey lets go out and do xyz blalabla'
    you: 'i'm sick of going out all of the time, lets stay in and cook/watch movie/fuck/what have you'
    Either she is a high maintence bitch, and will do you the favor of leaving, or she'll be down.
     
  11. Falconer

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    Yeah dude, if she has a problem with it then it's her way of telling you that she's a high maintenance bitch.
     
  12. Falconer

    Falconer OT Supporter

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    :bowrofl: a chick used the word "cunt" to refer to other girls.
     
  13. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    That's not that unusual, I do that all the time :o
     
  14. calisteph6

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    Yea...it offends a lot of people though. I had someone delete my usuage of cunt off of their myspace comments. :squint:
     
  15. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    they get offended because they are cunts :mamoru:

    the fact that it offends people is what makes it so fun to use :big grin:
     
  16. demosnat

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    :rofl: I sort of love that word for this reason and this reason alone

    http://www.amazon.com/Cunt-Declaration-Independence-Live-Girls/dp/1580050158

     
  17. QueenOfHearts

    QueenOfHearts New Member

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    As a chick myself, I do not find the word Cunt the least bit offensive.
    Of course... until its directed at me, then it seems to be a woman thing to just absolutely blow things out of proportion.
     
  18. Phantom Empress

    Phantom Empress mmmmmm tasty!!!

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    Phantom Empress mmmmmm tasty!!!

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    oh and why don't you guys take up some free hobbies together...or learn to cook together at HOME for WAY less than you would spend out?
     
  20. demosnat

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    I really need to learn how to cook :wtc:
    classes are so expensive though
     
  21. Phantom Empress

    Phantom Empress mmmmmm tasty!!!

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    I've never taken a cooking class in my life. I learned from family, television, books, the internet and Just plain old messing around with food.
    watch the food network. Get Alton Brown's books and just PRACTICE PRACTICE PRACTICE!!!!!
     
  22. scarletbegonia

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    I was about to say the same thing. I like going to the park with my boyfriend almost 100% more than going out some place that is awkward to show PDA. It's always nice at night too.
     

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