how to stop being a pussy

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  1. scribblec

    scribblec New Member

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    yea usual story, people have said theres nothing to lose go for it etc. but that doesnt work and is easier said then done. cananyone provide me with confidence to go for this girl im interested in.
     
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    That's about the only thing we can say, there's nothing to lose. If it doesn't work, try and try again. No shit it's easier said than done, we all know that :)
     
  3. scribblec

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    well im getting her msn on sunday if thats getting anywhere :p

    gonna get her number after that and see where it goes


    on sunday because thats the days we work together


    but i have a great feeling im gonna fuck it up anyway

    or maybe because i have such negative thoughts

    or maybe cos i keep changing my mind
     
  4. option2

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    Or maybe this or maybe that, who cares? honestly? RELAX and just be you, if shes not into you and you have to fake your attitude to get her interested just move on, there are way more fish in the sea man. Just do what you do best, be you.
     
  5. PocoDiablo

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    There is a lot more to this that just what can be said here. You really need to poke around some web sites and see what you can learn. You sound like you have no experience with women. Welcome to the club, we all start some where.

    Let me say one thing first - do NOT go into this with an agenda, with wanting something from her (sex), wanting anything! Women can smell the desperation of an agenda 100 miles away and will be instantly turned off. Instead, go at it from the angle that you don't need her or want her, and in fact you think that she's funny and you're going to give her a hard time (aka, harrass, joke, poke fun at) about everything. Treat her like one of your guy firends. You know, he shows up with a shoelace untied and you call him a slob for it. He forgets to show up for something and you give shit for being a slacker. You don't want to play TOO hard, you need to let her know you are joking, but you don't want to let her get away with ANYTHING you would not let your best friend get away with.

    In addition, treat her kind of like a guy friend. No hugs or kisses, trying to touch her, hold hands, any of that BS until later. Just hang out, lean back, but also look her in the eyes (not at her body, tits, ass) and don't stare at other women or make comments about them.

    No talking about cars, computers, sex, drug, politics, religion, or anything else that could POSSIBLY be offensive (like rape, kiddie porn, murderers, car accidents, etc.) and no bragging. Do not buy her anything otherwise she will think you are trying to buy her.

    Basically, be yourself - as mentioned - but REALLY yourself. Not some pussy kiss-ass.

    Now, finally, the most important thing: You need to be sure SHE is interested in you. Does she touch you, come close to you, talk with you and ask you personal questions (since you should not be telling her anything about yourself, she'll have to ask...), and let you know details about her schedule (so you can ask her on a date.) If she is not interested in you, pull back, pull away, try LESS and see what happens.

    You may want to check out some of these sites:

    http://www.Friendzoned.com - my site; new but already some great guys giving advice there

    http://www.SoSuave.net - I like this site

    http://www.fastseduction.com/youarenew/ nice list, read with care

    http://www.fastseduction.com/asf-faq.shtml#questions - good list of FAQ

    http://www.alovelinksplus.com/advice/dating_self_help.htm - a great overview of Doc Love's philosophy which I think is very good and ....

    http://www.askmen.com/dating/doclove/ - articles by Doc Love which are often very good. (Note: Not all articles on that site are his, so pay attention to the authors as you click around.)

    I would recommend you get Doc Love's Dating Dictionary/System which you can usually pick up cheap on eBay.

    Finally, David DeAngelo has hit site here:

    http://www.doubleyourdating.com/

    He has some interesting material, although it's not very thorough. However, I am finding that his monthly interviews with Gurus ($20/mo) are pretty good.
     
  6. scribblec

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    those sites are brilliant reading through them now
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    Poco, do you have a lot of success that you attribute to these charismatic philosophies you seem to have memorized?
     
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    sounds like someone's been reading Neil Strauss's "The Game"
     
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    this might sound strange, but almost every girl I have talked to in last 2 years has never really asked me personal questions. Even my exGF didn't.... well she was self centered attention whore, but she never really asked me about anything about myself.

    Local girls at the pub don't make much conversation (there is like 15:1 guy:girl ratio, so every guy tries to jump in their pants, my way is atleast different). I just try to talk and get to know them, mix it up and be an ass / ignore them. It still usually winds up being one sided. I ask simple stuff they respond and ask the same question back.

    I am not that ugly (6/10, i put on winter weight), and I have learned and been told by english women that: 7/10 english chicks want american lads. So I have alot of cards in my favor yet it feels like it is useless.

    Any english specific sites / advice?
     

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