How to make it Official

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  1. 88

    88 New Member

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    Seeing as I've never been in "serious" relationship, how do you actually "get" a girlfriend? As in going from dating stage to bf/gf.

    I was just wondering because at 20yr's old I've never been in a serious (long term relationship) Just a whole heap of one-nighters or club hook-ups. I have actually never asked a girl on a date. :hsugh:

    So my main question is: If you're intrested with a girl in one of your classes(for instance), how well do you have to know her before you ask for a date? Then how do you go from there to make it "official".

    Thanks, :wavey:
     
  2. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    There's no set time. If you want to go on a date then ask her on a date :hsugh: After a few dates the two of you might actually like each other and you will just know. You can possibly bring up what you are with the "what are we?" talk if you are really that insecure and confused, or you could just flat out do the old school thing of telling her you want her to be your girlfriend.
     
  3. BradUF

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    It just happens.
     
  4. 88

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    :hsugh: I have no clue :rofl:
     
  5. antihero

    antihero OT Supporter

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    always worked wonders for me.

    "I want you to be my girlfriend"
     
  6. antihero

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    "what are we" talk = :greddy:
     
  7. HuskiRuski

    HuskiRuski Cardinal Fan

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    just increase the frequency of dates, phone calls, and eventually she'll get it that you want to be more serious. only do this if you're getting some sort of positive signs from her that she's developing feelings for you, however.
     
  8. antihero

    antihero OT Supporter

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    why bother hinting around?

    say what you mean and take what you want.
     
  9. HuskiRuski

    HuskiRuski Cardinal Fan

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    because some girls might take it as "awkward" if you ask them to be your gf.

    and in my opinion, always avoid the "what are we" talk in a relationship. it has a way of making things more complicated than they really are.
     
  10. KindlyCuddly

    KindlyCuddly Irina Lazareanu

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    Okay, and then when the girl you want to be your girlfriend starts hooking up with other guys because she doesn't have a boyfriend? There needs to at least be some talk as to whether the relationship is monogamous or not.
     
  11. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    :werd: you can't just expect that someone is your gf, there needs to be an agreement between the 2 of you that you won't be doing anything with other people
     
  12. HuskiRuski

    HuskiRuski Cardinal Fan

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    then that girl isn't interested in your and/or isn't a good candidate to be your girlfriend anyway.
     
  13. antihero

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    awkward? :dunno: if by awkward you mean lit up like a christmas tree and having a hard time figuring out who to call/txt first and tell them the news then sure.

    you don't want to have the "what are we talk" because its weak. "what are we" is dancing around the issue in an insecure way.
     
  14. antihero

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    why not?
     
  15. calisteph6

    calisteph6 Active Member

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    I think a lot of people do this whole "are you seeing anyone else?" if the answer is no, then you say "ok, well I don't want you to."
     
  16. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :mamoru: Agreed.

    A month into dating my SO we came home and I drunkenly said
    Me: "you're my boyfriend, right?"
    Him: "duh"
    end of story :rofl:
     
  17. calisteph6

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    Yea I had a ex who started calling me his GF and I was kinda like :ugh:, but I went along with it because I thought he was alright and after awhile I just caught onto it. :mamoru:
     
  18. stormywaters

    stormywaters Tornadoes are just wind...

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    My boyfriend just came out and asked me to be his girlfriend. Worked very well.
     
  19. runawaycamel

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    If I was interested in a guy and he just flat out asked to be my boyfriend I'd be quite happy. Just make sure she's interested.
     
  20. HouseLing

    HouseLing When masturbations lost its fun you'r fucking lazy

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    :rofl: so true :rofl:
     
  21. k0in b4hd

    k0in b4hd New Member

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    when u can suprise sex her, then you are together
     
  22. chlywly

    chlywly Active Member

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    I tend to think asking or saying nothing, works best... let time handle it... however if you must you can always say 'I want us to be exclusive, or lets take our relationship to the next level" etc
     
  23. antihero

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    girls love the word girlfriend... am i missing something here? oh well. whatever works for you i guess.
     
  24. Chris90210

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    "Wanna be my girlfriend"
    Post Highschool you should be to the point that you two just know. Or you do not have to make it official like high school.
     
  25. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    the modern equivalent of clubbing a girl over the head :mamoru:
     

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