How to hint I want more?

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  1. bmorrell

    bmorrell SoCal > *

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    Ok. My friend used to live here, but moved out of state. She comes every summer for about a week or so. We hang out almost every day she's here, go to dinner all the time, etc. I'm pretty sure I'm not friendzoned, because I see her like once a year.

    How would I drop hints to let her know I want more? I can't just instantly start hitting on her (can I?) because it would seem weird...or would it? And while I'm on that, I sometimes have a hard time, because I feel like a tool (aka I feel like I'm coming across as desperate) hitting on somebody. I know it's all confidence though.

    Spend more/less time with her when she comes down this summer? Say/do certain things?
    Any advice?
     
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    this is going to come off smartass, but its an honest question:

    why bother? are you trying to start up a long distance relationship? is one of you moving soon?
     
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    drink wine at dinner. be flirty, physical. touch her. continue to escalate physically. fuck her.
     
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    #1 is you have to give her a big hug right off the bat with no hesitation
     
  5. bmorrell

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    Well I'm not looking for a relationship but, to put it bluntly, I want to hook up with her.

    This is the type of stuff I'm looking for (even though I already do this).
     
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    do what i said then if you want to hook up
     
  7. At least he's honest. :rofl:
     
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    That's pretty much it. Don't talk about sex, don't tell her your intentions, but use body language and actions to make it perfectly clear.
     
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  10. bmorrell

    bmorrell SoCal > *

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    OK so I'll be talking to her very soon.

    Very random thing following...

    I was thinking: we've had this idea of going up to L.A. (or somewhere like that) for a night and just taking a mini road trip, because I live in S.D. Problem is, we're both minors so I'd have to get a fake ID to get a room, etc, gotta plan everything, etc. It's just so much of a hassle. She seems into it though.

    While it would be cool to just get away (with her), it's too much of a hassle. If we did go (somewhere), I think it would be fun and it would maybe lead somewhere. What are your thoughts on this?

    Any other ideas in general? I appreciate it.
     
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    ^ Go camping?
     
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    wtf don't plan a road trip if you want her to be your fuck buddy. In and out, bro. You're so not prepared for this; I would say abort mission unless you plan on dating this broad.
     
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    If they go away and start something physical it doesn't have to lead to a relationship unless she wants it and he allows it to. It all depends on the context.

    Friends go on road trips don't they? :dunno:
     
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    Generally speaking, as an assertive male, you should not hint. In fact, you should have asked her out from the start. At this point you are friendzoned and appear non-sexual to her. Getting out of the friendzone is tricky.

    I would suggest you master the cocky/funny routines of David DeAngelo - check out www.DoubleYourDating.com and sign up your email address for his free emails.

    This is a tough place to be. I don't really recommend it.
     
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    I wouldn't go on a road trip with a guy alone unless I was boning him, no.

    There are like 2 guys who are exceptions to that rule because I've known them a long time, there's no sexual tension, we're down like that, etc.
     
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    "No. But... yes." :rofl:
     
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    I'm sure she wouldn't want a relationship. She lives in another state. I wouldn't want one anyway.

    I'm just curious to see what your guys' thoughts are, because from the sound of it, she wanted to go...she brought it up when we were talking. And since she knows it would be just us, I assumed a little something was there?

    Anyway, yeah. Still not sure what I'm going to do, but we will talk soon.
     
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    The fact that she wants to go could mean that she wants to get you alone.

    Or it could mean she wants a little weekend adventure, and you are SO deep in the friendzone that the idea of having sex with you would never even occur to her.

    If you do this, I would suggest any advances you make be in a joking/teasing way ("oooooo we're all alone where nobody knows us" "hey, what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas" type stuff) and gauge her response. While it's generally not good to tread lightly with a girl you want, if you value her friendship you might want to tread lightly here. Don't assume anything.
     
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    just say hey i wanna fuck you and see where that goes?
     
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    watch a movie with her and rub your erection into her ass while laying down on a couch/bed?
     
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    I wouldn't suggest this at all. The FWB thing gets too complicated after a while

    and hope it doesn't ruin your friendship
     
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    Update/details?
     
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    :bigthumb: :rofl:
     
  24. bmorrell

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    She's coming down, don't know when. Don't know if I'm going to do the LA thing, but it is still definitely an option. If I wanted to though, I'd have to get a fake ID (I know somebody, but still), blah blah. But there are also other options.

    I'll keep you guys updated...
     
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    this will NOT end well.

    Here comes some high school advise...get wasted, both of you, and see what she does. If she doesn't come onto you at all, no flirting, step away. I had a "friend" in high school that I wanted to fuck, never wanted things to get weird so I never did anything...we got wasted one night, true feelings came out.

    I foresee a crash and burn.
     

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