LGBT How to get someone to ask if you're gay

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  1. D-FENS

    D-FENS New Member

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    I'm Bi, and I've been wanting to come out to some of my closer friends, but I feel wierd about just saying "Hey what's up? by the way I like guys," I don't want to seem like I'm being gay for attention. But I think I'd be OK with coming out in response to someone asking.
    SO, any ideas on how to get someone to ask?
     
  2. novo

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    you can't make someone ask, you just have to wait.

    if you want to speed up the process, i guess you have to be a little more obvious about it.
     
  3. Bib-Lettuce

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    I was in pretty much the same situation. Though once my parents found out it wasn't that hard to tell people, though I did feel weird about telling them in person so I just told them over an SMS/MSN/etc. Maybe just gauge their responses to gay/bisexual people and go from there? Try to bring the subject up? Hell ask if they've seen Brokeback Mountain?

    Basically just weed out the people who feel should know as oppose to those don't, because there are people I know of, that I see every so often who don't need to know one way or the other and it would be weird of me to bring it up for no reason to them. But with friends it came more naturally because they should understand why they need to know. With people you don't know as well it may come off as 'why tell me?'. So yeah just decide who should know.
     
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    I just told my friends. I just shared it over dinner one night.
     
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    In my best Karen Walker voice. . .

    "So you know how I'm into gay porn, right?!"


     
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    :bowrofl: best way to come out EVER
     
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    :rofl:
     
  8. People used to ask me sometimes but I'd always just say "NO"...:hsugh: I don't know why they would ask me...I think because I'm overly energetic kind of about everything so that could come off as "flamboyant" to some maybe. :dunno:
     
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    I was watching some DVD's last night and one of the episodes I watched was the one where she says "So you know how I'm into Aerosmith, right?!" and that phrase has been stuck in my head all day... fawk. All I was thinking thru my last class was wanting to turn the the only other guy in the class and go "So you know how I'm into blonde stocky footballers, right?!" :o This is the first time in like 5 years I've been obviously attracted to a straight guy... this will not end well....
     
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    honestly if you need someone to ask you i dont think youre ready to tell them.....

    imo
     
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    I've had other people ask about me to other friends. They would say because I have just as many girl friends as I do guy friends or I always have the newest and most name brand clothes! Like WTF, those are the dumbest things I've ever heard.

    A few months ago I was drunk at Waffle House and a girl asked if I was gay because I was just to (pause) well put together? I dunno...
     
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    Nobody ever asks me...unless i bring it up.

    Friend: so where did you go last night?
    Me: yeah i went to "insertgayclub" last night, it was fun.. but different.. it lets me go all out and do what i like.
    Friend: That's a gay club right? You're gay?
    Me: Yep, always been...

    Friend: so where did you go last night?
    Me: yeah I went to "insertgayclub" last night, it was fun.. but different.. it lets me go all out and do what i like.
    Friend: oh really, i've never heard of that place. what type of club is it?"
    Me: A really cool dance club located near downtown, they play sweet music and i always get trashed..
    Friend: that sounds cool, any hot chicks?? What type of club is it?
    Me: It's actually a gay club, there were lots of girls but i think they were all lesbians.
     
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    Nobody ever asks me...unless i bring it up.

    Friend: so where did you go last night?
    Me: yeah i went to "insertgayclub" last night, it was fun.. but different.. it lets me go all out and do what i like.
    Friend: That's a gay club right? You're gay?
    Me: Yep, always been...

    Friend: so where did you go last night?
    Me: yeah I went to "insertgayclub" last night, it was fun.. but different.. it lets me go all out and do what i like.
    Friend: oh really, i've never heard of that place. How is it? "
    Me: A really cool dance club located near downtown, they play sweet music and i always get trashed..
    Friend: that sounds cool, any hot chicks?? What type of club is it? We should go sometime.
    Me: It's actually a gay club, there were lots of girls but i think they were all lesbians.
     
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    Friend: Man my cock is hard
    You: Would you like me to suck it for you?
    Friend: Your gay?
    You: No, I just like sucking guys cocks!
     
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