I’ve been seeing this girl that I ran into last summer and things have been going well….all except for the ex boyfriend. My gf and I have a history (no, not that kind of history…one where we were friends first) together that dates back to high school. I had the biggest crush on her then but my best friend was dating her at the time. I hadn’t seen her from my senior year of HS until this summer. That was 8 years ago (I’m showing my age here). We both went off to college in different directions and started careers etc. and we just happened to meet by coincidence one night during a summer weekend while I was visiting a friend before he went on active duty. Things kicked off great and we were getting along great. But….. For the last couple of weeks I would try to get ahold of her at her house and on her cell phone. She would never call me back until 8 or 9 o’clock at night (we live 3 hours away from one another and I see her on the weekends). So I confronted her about it and she admitted that her old controlling boyfriend was giving her the sob story and telling her that he would commit suicide if she didn’t come over and see him. I told her, “Great! Let the asshole knock himself off!” She didn’t like that though so I asked her some more questions about him and why she felt obligated to help him. She also told me that he has been following us around when we were together and that’s the reason she doesn’t like to go out on the weekends with me and do normal couple “out and about” stuff (for fear that I would pistol whip the mother fucker to a bloody pulp…which I would). She doesn’t seem to want to get any restraining order nor do I think that she could as he has never done any harm to her or me. I believe what my gf has told me about him and his actions towards us. I love this girl to death and I wouldn’t doubt if she’s the one, but it’s this idiot that has me second guessing what our intentions for one another are and what our future together is going to be. So I guess my questions are: 1.) Has anyone been in this situation before and what did you do? 2.) How do I help my gf realize that all she needs in life right now is herself, myself, my family and her family? And she doesn’t need this jerk pulling these kinds of stunts. I can’t believe she dated this guy for 6 years! BTW, she’s two years older than me (if that makes a difference) and the ex bf is 6 years older than me. CliffNotes: How do I get rid of my gf’s ex bf w/o beating his ass to a pulp & going to pound me in the ass prison??