How to get out of friend zone.

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  1. JoeMayo

    JoeMayo New Member

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    Been hanging out with this chick a few times and I think I'm in the dreaded "friend zone" now. Cliffs. Known here for 5 years. Always has a b/f but whenever shes in town from college she calls me up and we get some sushi, go to club etc. We barely talk when shes at school. What do I need to end the friend zone and try to get into something more serious? I feel like I'm being to nice since I pay for the food and drinks etc all the time. Any advice.
     
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    deleterious OT Supporter

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    stop being so nice and ask her out
     
  3. LBFilmGuy

    LBFilmGuy LOL why u mad tho?

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    What? She has a bf.

    What do you expect to happen? :hsugh:
     
  4. DigiCrime

    DigiCrime If Only!

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    If you had only know her for a short period of time it might be reversible but after five years I wont say its impossible but itll be close. You have to tell her how you feel and she how she reacts to it. If shes not interested dont stop being her friend not her fault that you feel the way you do... my opinion anyways
     
  5. LBFilmGuy

    LBFilmGuy LOL why u mad tho?

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    And :rofl: at you for paying for everything when you do hang out.

    Ultimate friendzone ownage.
     
  6. JoeMayo

    JoeMayo New Member

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    Yeah so basically I'm fucked!.. O well.. I'll tell her how I feel next time we hang out. If it ends up in the other way then I'll end contact with her.
     
  7. DigiCrime

    DigiCrime If Only!

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    why end contact with her?
     
  8. JoeMayo

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    What else should I do? When she calls and wants to go to the casino or something.. Tell her nah I'm tired or should I just be blunt.. We'll look you gotta pay for your food yourself? ha
     
  9. LBFilmGuy

    LBFilmGuy LOL why u mad tho?

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    Read what you just wrote and think about how dumb that idea is.
     
  10. LBFilmGuy

    LBFilmGuy LOL why u mad tho?

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    Exactly.

    Always be busy when she wants to hang out.
     
  11. JoeMayo

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    I get your point. What would you do in my situation. End it period or keep being dragged around.
     
  12. DigiCrime

    DigiCrime If Only!

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    You don't end it that would be selfish. Unless you have a reason to end your friendship no reason to cut her off entirely. Shit happens we can't help the way we feel about a person and unless you tell them how you feel they will never know not everyone can pick up on it. Boyfriend or not still tell her how you feel anyway. But don't cockblock either.

    Just be busy when shes around, make yourself unavailable, stop paying for her shit just over all being nice. Don't be a dick but don't ask how high when she says jump either. This is how guys get friendzoned.
     
  13. LBFilmGuy

    LBFilmGuy LOL why u mad tho?

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    See post above and find a girl(s) who are available and interested in you.
     
  14. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    seriously. Do you buy drinks and shit for all your guy friends ? fuck no.


    Nothing wrong with having her as a friend, but stop paying for stuff. And she has a bf, good luck.
     
  15. JoeMayo

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    If and when we do hang out again and eat somewhere or go to a bar etc how do I put it I'm just paying for myself.. "hey make it 2 checks!"?
    She'll be in for a good awakening I'm sure. I leave for school in South Africa for 3 months soon anyways.
     
  16. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    And after these 5 years of you pathetically taking her out and paying whenever she comes into town you have yet to make a physical move on her???
     
  17. MCohen

    MCohen #NotMyPresident #AmericaIsAlreadyGreat #GoSolar OT Supporter

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    Dude, I think it may be time to call it quits. If you've been hanging with her for 5 years and she's gone through multiple relationships, it either you missed your chance or she's not in to you.

    There are plenty of girls out there, go spend your money on one that actually has some potential.
     
  18. JoeMayo

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    Yeah I to think it's time to call it quits. No more hanging out. I'll just ignore when she try's to get in contact.
     
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    go in for a kiss, you'll know if it's breakable in a couple of seconds :o
     
  20. JoeMayo

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    I've already hooked up with this girl before. It's been in the first year we meet. Since then nothing ha.
     
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    Ok I will instruct you on how to get out of the friend zone.

    Cut off contact with her for 6-12 months.

    During this time improve your confidence and physical appearance by working out and running.

    When you do 'run' into her again at the later period you must have a life filled with hobbies and activities besides xbox and chillin with the bros. Make sure the conversation is filled with sexual undertones and avoid all friend like behavior previous displayed in the past. (hanging out with her while she has a boyfriend, paying for her shit, being her emotional tampon,etc)

    Oh fuck it I dont even know why I am typing this out just keep hanging out with her and make sure to stop by CVS on the way home to pick up a bottle of jergens for when you drop her off at her domicile after paying for all of her shit.
     
  22. MattThom01

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    she has a bf who takes care of her sexually/romantically. Then she has you to take care of friendship needs, and you take care of the cost of the times hanging out.

    Why, oh why would she have any desire to change things?
     
  23. MCohen

    MCohen #NotMyPresident #AmericaIsAlreadyGreat #GoSolar OT Supporter

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    Thats horrible advice. If you're stuck in the FZ in a girl, just move on. Don't change yourself for anyone.
     
  24. Abomb

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    normally you post solid shit but that is just retarded.

    I am advocating to get in physically sound shape and enjoy a life filled with a variety of enjoyable activities. Yeah bro, stay out of shape with a boring, dull life :rofl: :ugh2:
     
  25. MCohen

    MCohen #NotMyPresident #AmericaIsAlreadyGreat #GoSolar OT Supporter

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    I think everyone should already be in shape and out there enjoying activities, but if you're not that type of person then changing what you do and what you like for a girl is retarded. And planning it out for 6-12 months is just obsessive.
     

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