background here: http://forums.offtopic.com/showthread.php?t=4489678 cliffnote on background: 1) girl likes me and actively pursued me for 2 weeks. Asked me to hang out everyday, texted me constantly, cooked for me, had 1-on-1 romantic dinners, etc., etc. 2) I asked her out on a date (we've been going on 1-on-1 dates ... however we never made dating official). 3) Couple days after I asked her out on a date, she gave me the "we should just be friends speech." In hind sight, I think she got cold-feet b'c I asked her out (she doesn't want to commit to a relationship) 4) Despite the "we should just be friends" speech she keeps inviting me to hangout and giving me mixed signals story: Anyways, the girl (same girl in the background story) have been calling me and inviting herself over to hangout for the past couple days or so. On Sunday, she invited herself over to watch a movie together. I took the initiative and put my arms around her while watching the movie. Next thing you know, her head was laying in my lap and we cuddled throughout the movie. Roommate was watching the movie with us in the same room ( so we couldn't fool around too much). On Monday, she invited herself over again to watch a movie. I made a move again. In the end, we cuddled, made out, fooled around, and then she fell asleep while cuddling with me. After she woke up, she told me frankly that she is feeling really confused (i appreciate her honesty actually). On one hand, she says she likes me, she's enjoys my company, she feels a connection between us, and she's physically attracted to me. On the other hand, Also, she's doesn't want to commit to a relationship. She enjoys the freedom of being single (the freedom to hangout with her friends and the freedom of meeting new people). Also, she's afraid that she will this friendship if we do date and things turn sour between us (she has had a bad experience like this before). Basically, at this point, she doesn't know what she wants. Sometimes she wants to pursue something romantically with me and sometimes she doesn't. What do I do from this point? She's a very deliberate girl, and she likes to thing things through and explore all of her options before she makes a decision. My female friend told me to back off, give her room + space, and let her work out things in her end. In addition, maybe backing off will also make her yearn for me more. My guy friend told me to strike the iron while its hot. I should actively pursuit her and nudge her decision towards dating me in some other sense. But I want to hear you opinions?