SRS How to control getting hooked...

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  1. NotSoSmart

    NotSoSmart New Member

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    Emotionally that is...I used to be really weak emotionally, and pretty damn needy. Anytime I got attention, I'd grab on to the girl like no tommorow.

    That was back in HS & early part of college. Times have changed, and I'm better now. I see myself as being more confident, see myself controlling the situation at hand better...

    I did this by basically realizing that I DO have a lot to offer to women, and that they don't control how I should be, feel, or act. If I like something, needy me would be 'oh, okay...your way is better'. now, confident me is "too bad, that's me. Deal with it" I much prefer the 2nd way :)

    However, I'm not perfect...Anytime I feel that really close emotional bond, more so then just the attention, my old-self will rear-it's ugly head. I overanalyze the situation, and start to worry, and go crazy in the head.

    What do you guys do to control this feeling? :hsd: I know the usual 'go do things to keep your mind off it'. Have I been faking confidence? I don't know...i'd like to think not. I'd like to think that after 23 years, I've done a little better.

    So what do you guys do to combat that? I'd like to basically have more control over my emotions...
     
  2. Crush

    Crush Epidural hematoma up in this bitch

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    Go back to school and make yourself very busy. This way you will have too much to do to worry about what she is doing. If you have a degree, go back for another one. Its a no lose situation honestly, you learn, you improve yourself, and you don't worry about as much because you're too busy.

    Women also seem to like being neglected :rofl: as long as its not intentional.
     
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    LOL, well I meant from a more mental POV. Maybe I don't want to go back to school?

    I have plenty of hobbies (piano, fixing cars)...but still always find myself wondering back when I'm attached...
     
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    In for info cuz I do that all the time.
     
  5. CharlesMNeo

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    i gots the same problem, I kinda just force it out of my head by telling myself stop being a pussy bitch and man up, it helps sometimes
     
  6. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    If you knew exactly where ur partner stood in terms of her feelings towards u it would be impossible to feel uncertain, right... so like every other thing isn't this just about having really solid communication
     

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