FRK How to bring out the freak in her?

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  1. haargerman

    haargerman ayuh.

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    My apologies if this question has been asked before. I searched, but was unable to find anything relevant.

    Background: GF and I have been dating for almost 2 years, and have only been having sex for about 6 months. I took her virginity. I was not a virgin at the time.

    So, obviously she doesn't have much experience...

    My question is this: How can I bring out the freak in her? I want her to feel open about her sexual feelings and tell me about them. She never brings up sex in conversation and etc.

    Im hoping this will get better over time. She has been away for the past 2 months, so I figured she would..at some point..bring up sex during a phone conversation, but nothing yet. I think she might be embarrassed?

    I don't want her to feel like she is doing anything wrong, I just want her to become more open to talking about sex, what she likes, how she likes it, and etc. Even when we are in bed, I have to ask her, because she is not very vocal. I have to tell her to talk to me.

    How did you get your SO to become a freak in bed? :x:
     
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    no lol today Soy la bailarina de la muerta. OT Supporter

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    Sprinkle fairy dust onnit & click your heels 3 times.
     
  3. adrenalin112

    adrenalin112 New Member

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    well you have a very unique situation, she only has her experiences with you as reference for sex. and if she's got your pleasure in mind as one of her main priorities she'll likely be willing to try out many things just for you. hopefully, while trying out those things she'll find something that she really enjoys.
     
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    no lol today Soy la bailarina de la muerta. OT Supporter

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    Make her a list of different fetishes. Lists are sexy.
     
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    lots of regular sex. more specifically, lots of regular good sex. lots of pressure-free trust. once she feels comfortable with that, she'll be open for other stuff. You'll just need to take it slow, communicate often, and get her comfortable with talking to you about how she liked certain things, if there's anything she's curious about, etc.

    above all, be patient!
     
  7. RougeOgre

    RougeOgre FS Librarian and MOD

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    Communicate... take it slowly, ask her what she would & would not be willing to try.
     
  8. Nucleartiger

    Nucleartiger Clemson makes my nipples hard

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    Well I do hope you have alot better luck with your girl then I have had with my wife. I am the only man she has ever been with I have done all the things that people have mentioned in here as far as being patient and taking things slow. She is still not comfortable with anything more than her laying there until she cums and then being finished. There are flashes of progress where she will do things out of the blue like BJ to completion and allowing me to take pictures (which was so hot!!) once. All I can say is if your pleasure is not her priority in bed then you are fucked because she won't ever do anything more than "make love" to you.
     
  9. HouseLing

    HouseLing When masturbations lost its fun you'r fucking lazy

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    if sex is something she is willing to talk about, start there. Hopefully she dosnt have that "omg sex is something I can't talk about attitude that a lot of younger girls seem to have.

    Other ways to open her up to new things is porn. It's a fairly safe way to bring up the subject of kinky things. However you do it though, you'll have to communicate like already mentioned.
     
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    That makes me giggle, simply because it's something my gf says to me. :)

    To the OP, these sort of things just take time. Patience is key.
     
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    greenpillow New Member

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    I saw something on the history channel.. It made me think that girls under a certian age have been really hit with the "I have to be skinnny and have huge perky tits" to have high self-confidence.

    So I think the more you complament her on the way she looks both in and out of the bedroom the better. Also you have to communicate with her other then just day to day chatter.. I am the most turned on when I talk to my husband about things other then work or biking.. I like to hear about stories of his past.. or what he thinks about other things. You said she is new to stuff so maybe show her what you would like her to do to you.. she might just not know what to do! Maybe watch some soft core porn and get some ideas and move up from there.

    I don't know.. its just a thought.
     
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    My bf had experience but he was my first, and though i'm not incredibly outgoing in bed, I've definately noticed a change in myself from when we first started messing around to now. she'll probably become more outgoing in bed with time--it takes a while to gain your confidence about it, sometimes. try first with different positions/places, maybe that will help.
     
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    I will say that I took my wife's virginity. She was 30! I ran into trying to be patient with progress, and it almost affected my decision to get married. I didn't want to be in a situation where I was mad after getting married. But in life, all you take are chances. I looked past that, and hung in there. With time, and communication, things have gotten a WHOLE LOT BETTER.
     
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    Some one mentioned porn. If she is into the idea that will give her a whole lot of ideas she's probably never considered. My wife is not into porn at all so it takes a lot of communication.
     
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    Eventually she's going to want to try new things, just be patient. Boring sex is inevitable in the relationship, so give it time to evolve. When she starts making suggestions, I think it's a good time for you to offer yours.
     
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    I'm not going to lie, booze helps.

    I don't mean get her black out drunk, but a gf who's a little buzzed is more open to things.

    Mine was like that, we came back from a night of drinking, i decided to try something and the next day she put two and two together that I was a little freakier and wanted me to try more things.
     
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    I'd advise against the booze, just because you don't want her to think that you're getting her drunk just to have sex. That's a major no no in every girl's book that I know. We tried lists at first, but eventually, it just came down to trying new things. Slowly, start to mention things you'd like to try, (tame at first), then work your way up. Maybe she'd like to hear your ideas first so she doesn't feel embarrassed about asking for something that seems weird to her. I'd start with the standard silk tie talks, maybe a little hair pulling, and see how she feels about that.

    Edit: And if she doesn't want to vocalize (I sympathize), Instant messenger, text messages, or even the old fashioned hand written letter are helpful.
     
  18. NetLogic

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    Wife was a virgin when we got married and had no experience at all before meeting me. I felt the same way and it just take some time but it does come around.

    Best of luck
     
  19. haargerman

    haargerman ayuh.

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    Totally forgot about this thread...

    SO comes home on wednesday. Havent seen her in like 6 weeks. Time for some fun :naughty:
     
  20. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Why does she have to be expected to bring up the sex? Why don't you open your mouth and start the communication. Without that you'll never get the freak out in her most likely.
     
  21. haargerman

    haargerman ayuh.

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    what are you talking about?? :dunno:
     
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    Damn it, I was too late. This is what worked for me (us)!
     

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