how to avoid/turn down sex with a girl im dating?

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  1. Want2race

    Want2race Fearless

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    Basically I dont want to fuck things up. We have been out 5 times for prob 30 hours and I love spending time with her.

    This friday Ill possibly spend the night but I dont want to have sex with her. Why not ? I want the rest of the relationship to develop before I do.. Am I a pussy? Im sure you guys will think so.

    Any advice on this one?
     
  2. CorpseStreet

    CorpseStreet New Member

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    That doesn't make you a pussy. If you're not ready then you're not ready. It's no big deal. If it seems like a likely possibility that you guys might have sex just tell her you want to wait. If she can't handle it that tells you alot about her.
     
  3. Toxica

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    Well the only way you can do that is by communicating with her. So just tell her that you want to take things slow and you want to wait a bit before you have sex. She'll probably understand.
     
  4. ThomasAJ

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    well dont get carried on. and if u dont want intercourse, but do want other things lay down the rules early. its not that bad. i dated lots of girls and didnt have sex. mainly cause i wasnt sure if i wanted to be with them or not. i didnt want to be a whore. looking back i some times think a couple more might have been good though. lol
     
  5. Want2race

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    Thanks guys!
     
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    Some girls may begin to mistake your lack of effort to escalate things physically as lack of interest.
     
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    yeah just be aware of the friendzone
     
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    your words to us were perfect in girl language to be honest. Thats what you need to say to her.
     
  9. Want2race

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    :bigthumb: and :eek3:

    Maximum points achieved! She cant wait for next time cause she thinks shes getting some!
     
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    Is she going to try? Since you havent been seeing eachother that long she might be really turned off by it :hs:
     
  12. Want2race

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    The deal went like this.. I told her i didnt want to have sex with her till we were in a stable committed relationship or I knew that things wouldnt change excessively. She agreed but tried to jump me..

    Then I told her if she was serious about us to wait till the next time we saw each other.. shes in like flin! Done deal and im happy :)
     
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    Damn son, if I wasn't mistaken I'd say you're playing her like a cheap flash game :rofl:

    Nice job :bigthumb:, sounds like she's craving the cock
     
  14. Viper

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    :rofl:

    So you pretty much just did it because you knew she'd want to fuck you for it and you didn't really mean it. :mamoru:
     
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    no.. i did it because i like this girl not to play any games...
     
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    But as soon as she jumped you (sexually) for it, you decided that the next date you go on was the moment at which the relationship is both stable and committed? :coolugh:

    I think you are just lying to yourself man.
     
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    BTW, don't get me wrong. I don't think you should hold back sex at all. How exactly do you build a sexual relationship without sex?

    And a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship IS a sexual relationship. If there is no sex, then you are just "friends," and you can't build a solid foundation for a sexual relationship in the same way you build a friendship.
     
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    I agree with Viper. How could one more meeting possibly make the difference between casual and committed? You want her, she wants you, so that's all good. But you're still giving it up without knowing her level of commitment.
     
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    Just get so drunk that you "cant"....that's what my bf does.
     
  20. Want2race

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    Thats true.. We did "bugger" around but just didnt want to do too much too soon. Trying to behave because I really do respect her.. She agrees (or so she says) and appreciates it... or so she says..
     
  21. jmezz

    jmezz layin in bed stretchin my pumped quads for hours

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    You always sleep with the girl the first chance you get, none of that 'holding back so the relationship has meaning' bullshit.

    Fuck first, ask questions later.
     
  22. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    If I were a girl I'd turn to my trusty dildo at this point. Maybe that's why I'm a dude though

    Would that word "relationship" freak her out man? If she's in this casually or just as a friend and then you go all "let's take 'this' slowly" ......
     
  23. chica&buddies

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    agreed.

    i was all for the waiting. that would give a guy major points from me if he said something like that. :) sex certainly isn't everything in a relationship, but it is important.

    sooo now you made the girl believe that the next time the two of you get together, you're gonna have sex. :uh: that's not what you originally said, so now i'm getting a little :squint: because i think you may very well be playing games :nono:.
     
  24. antihero

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    2nded. Lol at least half the stories I know personally of guys who waited for whatever dumb reason "not wanting sex to ruin it" or "wanting to get to know her better" ended in disaster. lol
     
  25. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    yeah wasn't there a thread about this earlier. "men, don't wait," sth like that?

    ah yes

    http://forums.offtopic.com/showthread.php?t=4020280

     

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