Hi, appreciate all the advice in this subforum. I've gone through many of the threads here over many weeks, and they've helped me personally to no end. Anyway, theres this girl 'A' and me in 'love'. We keep no secrets from each other, and we know each others' past history very well (She's been in a couple of extremely short term relationships, and this is my first one). Theres this girl 'C' she is best friends with. They have been hanging out with two guys for a year now. (Conflicting schedules and distance factors have led to me meeting 'C' just once in the 3 months I've been together with 'A'). I'm a pretty short tempered and possessive type, and wasn't in favour of A going out to the movies and all with C and these two other guys, one of whom has the hots for my gf. She doesn't have those feelings for him, but nevertheless provides him with opportunities to flirt with her by hanging out with C and these 2 guys. Now I believe her, but do not appreciate her encouraging this flirtatious behaviour on his part. She hints that the other guy and C are on the verge of becoming a couple. She doesnt state this explicitly, but any half brained idiot would infer that from her accounts, and I trust that is the reason she 'chaperones' her friend C to these meetings with the two guys (who happen to be roommates). Being possessive, I throw a tantrum (probably not mature, I know, but my blood has a pretty low boiling point ) and question the need for her presence in the group since this virtually equates to her and C double dating those two guys. She says she has zero feelings for the flirtatious guy, accuses me of not trusting her and is hurt by my behaviour.. Our relationship cools down. Eventually we mend fences. Now, a month from then, it unintentionally slips out from her mouth that her best friend C is actually married for the past 2 years. Her husband lives 8 hours away and they live seperately while C completes her college graduation here in 6 months. This comes as a total shock to me. A lot of questions. A) Why the hell was this not disclosed to me earlier??? What sort of relationship are we in wherein she doesnt even bother to tell me her best friend is married?? B) If C is married, why the hell try to insinuate that she and this guy are trying to hook up? Why is she encouraging this behaviour on C's part by accompanying her to these virtual double dates? Do marriage vows mean nothing to C or herself?? C) She now says C has no feelings for this other guy, and if I had inferred from her ramblings that she did have feelings for this guy, I was sadly mistaken. Now, I am certainly gullible, but not stupid enough to misinterpret this so badly. D) Okay, assuming that C indeed doesnt have feelings for this guy, why the hell are they going to the movies and picnics with these 2 guys (one of whom flirts openly with my gf, by her own admission) when C is married, and my gf is my gf?? I know posing these questions to my gf is going to be futile, as it'll just lead to her accusing me of not trusting her and doubting her character. Am I being too immature in wanting my gf to stop going to the movies with a guy who openly flirts with her (heck, she doesnt even have the chaperoning excuse anymore)? Its pretty obvious she enjoys the attention this flirty guy showers on her. It is no longer a case of her tolerating his advances for the sake of her best friend. The way I see it, I either am too immature and thus not ready for a serious relationship, or am a gullible, spineless fool being led around. Either way the relationship is doomed, isnt it? Sorry for the rambling on. Its just that the fact that my GF would conceal the fact that her best friend is married shocks me to no end. I now feel like you can't trust anyone with the truth. Cliffs: - GF hangs out with best friend, female named 'C' and two other guys, one of whom I'm led to believe is in the process of hooking up with C, and the other openly flirts with my GF. - I object to her hanging out with flirty guy. She accuses me of not trusting her. - A month later, it slips out of her mouth that her best friend C is actually married and living seperately from her husband due to career and education problems. - This shocks me. Either it means she encourages a married woman hooking up with another guy, or that the story of her trying to hook up with this other guy was just an excuse for her to continue basking in the attention showered on her by Mr flirty guy.