How soon to become exclusive with someone?

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  1. Ivandrago

    Ivandrago I must break you.

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    How soon to you tell someone that you want to date them exclusively?

    I'm known this girl for about 3 years, and we've recently begun dating (because reasons that were a factor for 3 years were no longer a factor), and after only 4 weeks I know that I want to date her exclusively. I know what I like, and I found the right combination once about 8 years ago. Well that didn't work out, and now I started dating this girl...and I definitely want to date just her and noone else. The problem is...should I tell her? I mean i'm not proposing, but I am just saying that I want to date her exclusively. I know that the she has likes me a lot as well, but not sure if it's as much as I like her. :o

    Thoughts?
     
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  2. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    yeah sure, why not? if she likes you back she would definitely appreciate it.
     
  3. Ivandrago

    Ivandrago I must break you.

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    Think it might be a bit...fast? I've dated girl in the past who would be put off by that. And we haven't slept together yet...if that makes a difference....
     
  4. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    Well, do you have any idea of how she feels about you? Have you kissed or done other things? Do you know if she is dating some one else at the moment ? these are the questions that should be answered first I think.
     
  5. Ivandrago

    Ivandrago I must break you.

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    Definitely kissed ;) I know she's not dating anyone else right now.

    I know she likes me a lot. For the three years I've known her, I couldn't ask her out or make any kind of move for certain reasons...but I did get to know her well, and she got to know me as well. About a year ago, the above reasons became a non-factor, and we exchanged a few emails here and there before we decided to get together and hang out as friends, which is when I told her what and how I felt. She said she had similar feelings as well, but couldn't do anything for the same reasons I didn't say anything for 3 years.

    She's very independent, and that has some bearing on why she doesn't really date/pursue anyone.

    Our personalities click almost on every level...it's ridiculous how much alike we are.
     
  6. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    well, I think just tell her.
     
  7. Dahlia

    Dahlia Active Member

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    That makes no sense. She might not be dating anyone else because she hasn't really found anyone else. And why does it matter if she is? He's never asked to be exclusive yet, so it's her choice.

    And there is no reason at all to wait until you've slept together, and having to make it all sweet and romantic is total BS. If that's what you want, just ask her. Say hey, I think we really get along and I would like to make this exclusive, and see what she says. There is no need to be all romantic about it and that's how most guys get trampled on by most women.


    Just ask her when you want to, it shouldn't be a huge deal.
     
  8. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    Wait until you've fucked. Fuck soon
     
  9. Secret Agent Man

    Secret Agent Man New Member

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    1. Completely disregard this.
    2. Never take advice from a woman. They always say one thing, and then act in a manner completely different from what they said. They say they want romantic bullshit, but then if you act like that you come off like a pussy bitch and she loses respect for you.
    3. Yes, wait a little while, but don't get all stressed about it. Just tell her you're not seeing anyone else, and you aren't interested in seeing anyone else and see how she responds.
     
  10. Secret Agent Man

    Secret Agent Man New Member

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    That too.
     
  11. cgarcia2182

    cgarcia2182 New Member

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    I would plan a weekend away with her and tell her then. Girls or should i say WOMEN love when men set the mood. It makes them feel special.
     
  12. just_another_on

    just_another_on New Member

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    Agree 100% with both said above.


    As far as anything else goes, be a man. If you think the chemistry is that good, then chances are she feels that way too. Although like they said, after sex is almost a guarantee that she likes you, somewhat at least ;)
     
  13. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    You can't scare the right girl off.
     
  14. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Ugggggghhhhhhhhh

    ASK HER OUT, TODAY.
     
  15. Secret Agent Man

    Secret Agent Man New Member

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    Nope, only the attractive ones.
     
  16. vodkacollins

    vodkacollins New Member

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    pretty much what i'm thinking. if she wants to be exclusive with you too, she wont have a problem with you bringing it up

    if she doesnt want to be exclusive with you, do you want to be with her still? i always think its better to know than to sit around and wonder if you both are on the same page

    it doesnt have to be complicated. you can tell her that you really enjoy being with her and dont want to date anyone else and see how she reacts. take it from there
     
  17. BoomBoomBoy

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    Nothing set in concrete. Ask her.
     
  18. THoC

    THoC New Member

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    someone is still stinging from some girl fucking him over :hsugh:


    TS...... Ask her directly or if you are too pussy to, be a bit more discreat.
    one day while in bed "so, how do you feel about us?". pick up on her response and act accordingly.
     
  19. THoC

    THoC New Member

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    thank you! :bowdown:


    if you ask her to be exclusive and she gets scared bc of it, is she really the type of girl you want to be with? instead she needs games to be played in order to keep her interested? sorry, but thats not the type of girl i want to waste time on.
     
  20. Secret Agent Man

    Secret Agent Man New Member

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    No, not at all, it's just the truth.
     
  21. Ivandrago

    Ivandrago I must break you.

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    Umm..maybe you didn't read clearly enough, but we've gone out a few times already. Asking her out was never the problem. :p
     
  22. Ivandrago

    Ivandrago I must break you.

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    Great advice. :hsugh:
     
  23. chlywly

    chlywly Active Member

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    The best advice in here points to the fact that you cant really scare the right girl off, but in general several weeks of dating is good before saying something about exclusivity. Basically you want to get to know her first right, otherwise you seem desperate.. Why would you want to be with someone you dont know
     
  24. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    was talking to this one girl and she told me she had to cancel our date.
    :confused:
    she went on a 1st date with this other guy and he basically threw himself at her "i guess you are my girlfriend now".



    :rofl:, yeah that lasted about a week. Her friends told her she was a moron.
     
  25. antihero

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    it is pretty good
     

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