how soon is too soon to tell a girl you love her?

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  1. SeanVR4

    SeanVR4 Guest

    :o we've been dating officially for 2 months,yet she's known i've basically been in love w/ her for years though. do you think its too soon to say it to her face? :o
     
  2. Vegasoutkast

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    do you believe she feels the same way?

    if not, wait until you know!
     
  3. SeanVR4

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    well we've known each other for a long time. we were very close friends for about six years before we started dating, and she's always known that i've been interested in more. i dunno, i really want to tell her, but something tells me that i should wait a bit longer :o
     
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    Follow your instinct then.

    How would you feel if you said it and she didn't respond with an "I love you" too?
     
  5. SeanVR4

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    honestly, thats why i'm waiting. i mean, we're really close... things are going great between us. we just had an amazing valentine's day last month, we see each other quite often considering both of our extremely busy and opposite schedules.. i think she loves me, but isn't "in love" with me yet, you know? :o
     
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    follow your instincts
     
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    My bf and I agree--always let the girl be the first to say those words.
     
  8. SeanVR4

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    well that goes against everything television has taught me :hs:
     
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    2 months 3 weeks 13 days 8 hours 45 seconds... after that you can safely tell her.
     
  10. SeanVR4

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    :eek3:
     
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    TV and movies are written buy men. in reality girls want to be the first to say it
     
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    dont say it spray it

    no dont say it unless you control the relationship. let her say it so it will be special to her. (chicks like that kinda stuff) btw saying i love you may be nice but it's not that manly/macho and that's what the girls really like deep down..
     
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    Dude, like everyone else says. It should be natural. If you feel like you should tell her but are having doubts, wait until there are no doubts left then tell her. As for her saying it back to you, well thats another story. Some people aren't as ready to open up or don't quite have those feelings so soon. But that doesn't mean you can't tell them how you feel. Love is supposed to be given unconditionally, you shouldn't ever expect to get something back from it. Obviously you want your S/O to tell you she loves you back but if she didn't that doesn't mean she won't. I know when my current girlfriend first told me she loved me i wasn't sure weather or not i was in love with her and she didn't care. She told me that is how she felt and she wanted me to know. I really liked the fact that she told me and wasn't worried or even cared that i didn't say it back to her. I told her that i loved her about a month and a half later when i was sure. This girl is going to be the girl that i marry. I know it she knows it. Goodluck and don't sweat it too much!
     
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    Yeah, then it's better to wait. When I first told my boyfriend I loved him, he didn't respond with anything back. He just wanted to hear it. Took him a while to say it back, which kinda hurt. I don't know if I should have waited, but I think in your case, waiting is the best thing to do.
     
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    Absolutely. Wait for her to say it. Otherwise, your relationship might fizzle out in a month or so. It CAN happen that fast. By the way, don't smother her, and try not to think about her all the time. Take a small step back and analyze the situation from a somewhat distant perspective; you'll know what to do. :bigthumb:
     
  17. laracroft

    laracroft teh croft

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    Then you should probably wait. Give it another month or so or wait until you feel 100% comfortable saying it. And yes I think that you can "say it" first. Not all females feel that they have to be the ones to say it first.
     
  18. hayte997

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    Don't listen to this dumbass! Everyone knows you should wait til 3 months 5 days 2 hours and 17 seconds while eating cheese hanging upside down.
     
  19. shady5

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    dude if she feels the same, she knows how you feel. Let her say it...
     
  20. BradUF

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    Wait for them to say it.
     
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    :nono: what if both partners are waiting for that?

    Just drop it and see what she says...its not the worst of things if they dont feel the same way after only 2 months, once you are together longer is when it should come out more
     
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    6 months!
     
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    I waited about 3-4 months. I didnt plan it. It just slipped out one day and she reciprocated so everything was kosher.
     
  24. Original

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    You shouldn't be asking if it is the right time.

    When it is the right time, everything will feel perfect and you will just say it. Don't put a date to it :hs:
     
  25. SeanVR4

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    yeah, i guess that makes sence.

    its just tough to hold it in. i've loved her for like 6 years, but i've only had 2 months to sort of explore my feelings w/ her. make any sence? :o
     

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