how should i approach this?

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  1. thesuffering

    thesuffering New Member

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    So a little bit of the story:
    went to an ihop the other day for breakfast with a friend, talking with the waitress for a little while. She asks, "hey you have a phone? You should put my number in it and call or text sometime" figure im golden here. so later that night i text her talk for a little bit. I said we should hang out sometime. she says sure and asks when. I say how about tomorrow and she agrees. So yesterday comes, and she is texting me, just general bs nothing important. I get off work and ask if she still wants to hang out, and she says "sure, im hanging out with my friend dayna right now, but if you want to in a little while sure" I agree and just tell her to text or call whenever she was done and we could do something. This was around 3:30pm. At about 8 I dont hear from her, so I text "hey whats up?" dont get a reply at all.

    So now we are at the next day, and Im wondering how to approach this:
    1)I not contact her until she contacts me first (basically act like I can care less if she calls or not)
    2)Ask politely "Hey, what happened yesterday? Thought we were hanging out.
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    3)Say sarcastically "Hey, it was a lot of fun hanging out with you last night"
     
  2. Chip Chipperson

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    1) wow, she's ugly, huh?
    2) not "lets hang out sometime" but rather say "let's do xyz on ghj day"
    3) stop being afraid of using the phone properly
    4) NEVER tell the girl to call you later. She won't and you're stuck with your dick in your hands and in this situation
    5) Never use sarcasm
    6) "Hey I'll just wait for you while yo uhang with your friend dayna... my time is unlimited for you and I'm willing to shave your cooter while massaging you and doing your nails in order to spend some time with you, you beautiful specimen of golden mana from the heaven" is your subcommunication through that texting you did
     
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    thesuffering New Member

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    :rofl:

    so it should have been, "bitch, we going to xyz tonight, 5pm. see you then"

    damn i suck at this game :sadwavey:
     
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    fuck just after reading your topic. i think i did i a no no... i was talkin to some girl and.. im like

    "well hey i g2g i guess ill ttyl. txt me sometime or mabye when your hanging out with those people ik call me up.. im sure will have some fun."

    hm
     
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    Out of curiousity why do you say not to use sarcasm? Is this directed at this situation only because sarcasm is hard as hell to detect via txt?
     
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    Sarcasm is generally coming from a bad place, a place rife with insecurities and other things that are unattractive to women. It also spikes bad emotions.
     
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    Sarcasm = saying something good but meaning something bad
    Teasing = sayinig soething bad but meaning osmething good
     
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    Hmmm... interesting. I am an extremly sarcastic person - to a fault (IMO)

    Although it works well for me. However, I guess with your definitions there I am overly sarcastic and a big teaser. So maybe the teasing is what saves my ass?

    I'm going to have to pay some attention to this, see what my ratios are of teasing/sarcasm (your definitions of the two). I always love when someone shows me a blind spot :bowdown:


    And for the record the reason I like sarcasm is it is an extremly easy and effective ice breaker. Although I always say shit in a joking fashion, people know that I'm not trying to be a dick (most of the time :o)
     
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    the reason for most of the texting is because im at work, and cant just call. im not afraid to use the phone
     
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    I'm a real sarcastic guy too, but I can't think of a time when it's ever really helped me. There are times when sarcasm is just straight out fun, but when it's used to put the person down or bring out negative emotions, as its usually used, it's bad. It's along the same lines of "don't talk about negative things or bring out negative emotions"... because that's what sarcasm (generally) does. Don't ever say something is bad
     
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    :(

    okay, seeing my previous failure..how do i save this from here? lol
     
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    way to be a ass...

    if you really like her just call her up sometime and be like hey me and a bunch of friends are going down to the beach.. you wana come?

    either your gonna get denied and know she doesnt want you.. or shes gonna come hang out..

    dont be afraid to get rejected.. p.s. always make the plans shows your in control.
     
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    you were too available

    you contacted her too frequently

    you indicated that you were unwilling to take charge

    when she gave you her digits, she had high interest

    your actions lowered her interest significantly

    when she met you, she assumed other women were attracted to you, and that you had a lot going on in your life

    you proved her otherwise

    at no point were you a challenge for her
     
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    i do have other shit going on in my life, which is why i was pissed when i got stood up...plenty of other girls i couldve chilled with..

    fuck that noise, girls are fucking stupid if this is the way they think.

    she says to call, i do, and then she is lame? who the fuck does that?
     
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    are you trying to make her feel bad? hoping for an apology?
    Are you misguided enough to think that either of those will make her attracted to you?


    1. blow her off. if she calls, see how you feel then.

    2. ignore it. she got tied up with what she was doing. call and pretend it never happened.
     
  16. Chip Chipperson

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    Don't get bitter at women because YOU made a mistake in the pickup. It is YOUR fault. You are not a pickup king, get the fuck over it. Don't blame the girl because you made a mistake, get over your ego

    OH SWEET LORD i HAVEN'T LINKED THIS POST IN A WHILE oh baby:

    internal vs. external attribution
    http://forums.offtopic.com/showthread.php?t=3185141
     
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    :ugh:

    im blaming girls for acting completely dumb when it comes to this. you tell someone to contact you, they do. a meeting is setup, and then you decide oh, well that was too easy, nevermind.

    you honestly dont see where im coming from here?
     
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    im not trying to make her feel bad, but i dont want to call again and screw up because i made myself too available if you know what i mean. thats why i was asking your guys opinion on the next step.
    honestly im not too sure she is even worth the trouble
     
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    hey i never looked at it that way. good stuff.

    to the original poster:

    DO NOT CONTACT HER. she set up to do the chasing, let her chase.
     
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    thank you, finally some good feedback instead of bashing. the way some of these guys came off, i thought i had posted this in offtopic and not vag
     
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    i agree with this, first hand
     
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    Instead of saying you could do something "whenever she was done" you would've probably been better to say "call me up whenever you're done with your friend and I'll let you know if I've got time or if something came up."

    That way, she knows you have other alternatives and are in demand to do other things/be other places. That holds her interest, and makes it so you can conveniently be available when she does call later. I would even go an extra step and say that when she calls, tell her "give me about half an hour to finish up something I'm in the middle of, and then let's meet at _____"
     
  25. Chip Chipperson

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    never tell/expect the girl to call you until after you've fucked her. Because if she doesn't, you're stuck in the chode crystal in a position where you lose a lot of value when you call again
     

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